Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
I've resigned myself to being single because I'm not very healthy, mentally or physically. If I actually managed to get a relationship with someone, I would end up hurting them.
All the same, I always feel so irate and jealous when I see my friends with someone.
I want to die.
I am in the 4th week of summer school and I can't force myself to give up. I came into college thinking life for me would be better, turns out it is only worse. I find it more difficult to just even maintain contact with a girl, let alone get to know one. I checked my phone and I only have 2 numbers that are girls out of the 25 in it. Mentally I have given up, I know that I will be single my whole life. My heart still has some fight left it in, and I know I can't stop it but I certainly don't have to listen to it.
My heart has fallen for this one girl in my class, and I am counting down the days until classes is over so I can just forget about her. She is smart, outgoing, very social and talkative, beautiful, basically everything I am not. And she is very nice, one of the kindest person I have ever met. I think the only reason I fell for her is because she was the only person in a long time who has come up to me on a consistent basis and ask how my day has been. I think the only reason I like her is because she is the only girl who gives me any sort of attention.
orz why must you torture me?
I have probably posted this before.
All of your ancestors have not been single. The odds are in your favour, all of us.
>>804 arranged marriages plus it was so much easier in the day
>>803
I just checked, I have 19 girls in my phone (excluding family) on about 50 contacts.
Wow, I'm just surprised by that score.
788 here
>>794
My first date in my entire life was at 20, but I met my final choice when I was 21, so yeah, 21 years of being single, bleh.
>>796
EXACTLY what I was saying. Smart.
>>795
Not that I want to get too much into it, but when I say "when you aren't looking", my experience (and many others) is that love happens (sometimes) when you least expect it. Obviously keep trying, but sometimes it happens when you aren't trying as much.
I really don't want to be condescending, I sympathize with all of your feelings, but the most important thing you can do is persevere.
A couple of weeks ago I was waiting at a bus stop. I was not in such a great mood following uni that day. There was a guy walking towards me, and I'm looking past him to see if the bus is coming. As he comes nearer, I change my focus on to him, and I catch him with a rather silly small smile on his face. Grumpy that my personal space would soon be invaded, I turn the other direction and take no further notice at him. All the while I was thinking, "Don't sit down here, don't sit down here." Of course, he sat down next to me. Minutes pass, and the bus comes. At the ticket checking, I'm having trouble getting my purse out, and rather than hold up the line I let people pass. When I finally dig out my ticket, I reach to swipe the card at the same time as someone else. I turn around, and it's the guy with the small silly smile. I couldn't help but return the smile as he politely let me on first. It was then for a moment that my heart skipped a beat. It was strange, because I'm not one to get all deluded. I mean, I'm not naive and inexperienced as to go all lovey dovey over a small act. Normally, I wouldn't think twice if a guy offered me his seat. Add to the fact that he wasn't particularly physically attractive.
Anyway, a couple of days ago when I accompanied my friend to print stuff at the library, I bumped into him again. My friend and I were probably talking obnoxiously loud because he turned slightly towards my direction. I immediately recognised that small weird smile of his, and continued working at my computer in silence. All the while I was looking at him, whilst pretending to look at my screen. I had this sudden urge and confidence to give him my number (I never give out my number??). My gut was actually telling me that it would be a good idea. I folded though, thinking logically about the situation, and how weird I would come across. I left soon after, but after that second encounter I can't get him out of my head.
Thanks for listening.
maybe he's a stalker.. be careful. but hey.. it's worth a try.
>>806
Count yourself lucky, I have 5, 1 I could possibly date.
>>810
Well, to be honest, there are three or so I would gladly date (two of them taken, so no way), two that would date me but I don't want to, and one I'd marry on the spot and make her nine kids. But that's so not going to happen, it's depressing.
Every morning, I have this girl in my dreams. She doesn't resemble anyone I know at all. Every time I drift off to dreamland, I end up seeing her. We go and have fun. I treat her to some ice cream; we go to the bookstore and glance over all different types of books. I hold her; she feels warm and soft. She's affectionate and trusting. Her pouty smile, her beautiful eyes, and delicate skin, all bundled up in my arms. Then I open my eyes, and see her staring back at me for less than a second. Then it hits me. It was all a dream. I stay in my bed for a few minutes, contemplating the fact that she isn't real. I get a dreaded feeling that I will be lonely all my life, because I will never get her. This has been my life for the past 2 months. I hate my life, 4-ch.
>>814
A small kindness lands you in the dreaded friend zone... FOREVER
I just want a friend with benefits.
I don't care, i'm not desperate to get gals, they flock all over me.
That friend zone is bullshit, that doesn't apply to everything, a mere overhyped theory.
So the girl I love and am trying to clumsily and slowly seduce is all friendly towards a friend of mine she met at parties. In the course of a week (yeah we party a lot) she looks like very close to him. I just noticed she added him on Facebook, while she told me she always waited for people to add her. It's either that or he added her, which would be as bad because she semi-hid her profile, so that would mean he has searched for her and added her - probably meaning he's interested too given the circumstances. If they end up together it would be the second friend of mine she'd be dating.
I hate my life right now.
>>819 looks like she's the straight forward kind of girl. may be u gotta be more assertive. if you go too slow, she might think you are not interested in her.
>>820
She knows it. I told her before. She was interested in that other friend at that time. Now I'm trying to act somehow indifferent and increase my "value", because I can't do any direct flirting 'cause she'd see it coming. I'm conscious it's probably useless. If she does end up with that second friend I guess I'm going to have to sever any contact for a few. I don't know.
I'm really not sure how to react.
Every potential relationship I've ever had has failed due to my passivity. They all have either ended in the girl thinking (1) I'm gay and have no interest in her, or (2) going far too slow until she got fed up with it. More recently, a girl has been taunting me with other guys. According to all of her friends, she's trying to see how I react. Well, naturally, I react like I always do and simply withdraw from said situation.
I'm the type a guy who meets a girl, likes her, and then gives up when the going gets serious. I question sometimes whether I'm depressed, apathetic, or just a huge pussy.
>>More recently, a girl has been taunting me with other guys. According to all of her friends, she's trying to see how I react. Well, naturally, I react like I always do and simply withdraw from said situation.
Call her out on that shit, don't take it lying down. Trust me, I know how you feel; one of my ex girlfriends did that to me after she left me for another person.
Speaking of which, I'm kinda at a weird point. Every relationship I've ever been in ended in the person cheating on me/leaving me for another person... and I am still hurt by one of those relationships a year ago. Also, I'm in an area where there are very very few girls my type. I mean, I can hook up with random people, but none of them are people I probably would be able to connect with on a relationship level...
...However, at the same time, I do miss the feeling of being in love, of yearning for someone, of loving someone and being truly loved in return. I haven't been in a relationship in a year, and I haven't been truly in love and loved in return in 4 years. However, I'm going to wait until school starts back in August to worry about it, I guess...
Why bother? If I jerk off, she won't bother me nearly as much. Deep down I don't actually enjoy her company apart from touching. I have financial issues right now, and I'm trying to get back into school. Seriously, my days of partying and chasing after girls ended when I turned 20.
I love her with all my heart and don't expect much in return. It's hard to see her going to other guys, though. I would go and find me another girl, but I can't be serious about it.
I wish I didn't know a love so great and I could keep things simple and carefree.
I'm tired of being alone. Waking up, knowing I'm just going to be grinding the day away by myself; fuck that. I'm sick of that.
I never got along with anybody in highschool, it was nothing short of a miracle that I found a girl I liked my senior year. Damn shame she wasn't interested in me though, and now about a year later we're not on speaking terms.
All the older people in my life told me when I was in college, more opportunities would arise for me. While it's true I've met some pretty cool people, I've only met one girl that I've been romantically attracted to, and she ended up going out with one of my friends. I'm probably only going to be in college for about another two years or so, and I sincerely doubt my situation will ever change.
Love is a lie.
I find it funny that all of my friends approach me for relationship advice. With my success rate, I feel like a truck driver who was ask how to perform open heart surgery. Eh, thats life I guess.
i got this crush in class, she and I seem to be getting along pretty well, but the case is.. She has a boyfriend, and now i think im starting to fall for her.. gah what should i do?
I just found out that the guy I had been crushing hard on for the past year is a slut and a dishonest person. In my defense, I had an inkling that he was a bit of a bad boy, but he was very discreet about those kind of activities in front of me. I'm kind of glad actually, because although we parted ways a couple of months ago, I'd never truly managed to move on. I realise now that I'd been idealising him and this latest discovery has confirmed that for me. It's like all the pieces of the puzzle falling in place. Little suss things I remember about him are beginning to click. I'm just frustrated that I didn't want to trust my gut instinct earlier. I'm usually a very good judge of people, but it's funny how feelings can get in the way. I feel so foolish.
>>829
Well... try to be more clever next time maybe? :)
will we always be single??
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merowr!
Seems that way kitty. Seems that way.
Don't feel so bad about yourself, you're just a woman after all.
Love is both a lie and irrelevant to life. Girls (and people in general) suck, so I have no qualms about being single for the rest of my life.
I'm not young anymore, but as long as I work hard and continue to be successful, I don't give a flying fuck about getting a girlfriend at least once in my life.
all women are liars and that is why i will never find happiness
! that's why pron is so popular
>>835
for me, they are too demanding not liars....
what a shitty life. girls these days have way over the top standards
I completely agree with 839
Women dont realize that even high standards dont mean that theyll be happy just becuase a man is rich or good looking doesnt mean hes a nice/good guy
It's getting too much for me. Seeing my friend going out with the girl I like, seeing everybody around me finding bliss through their romantic companion, and seeing so many others squander such things as romance for money and status...
It's leaving me bitter. Perhaps a little to bitter to care when things might turn my way for a change. As far as I can tell, the situation will never happen where I'll ever know any such things. Knowing that they have so much, and some just piss it all away because it's the hot thing to do or it'll get them other things they want.
The bitterness has me turning cold. Nobody cares about me being alone. Nobody care about my emotional needs. If that's the case, why do I care about any of the needs of those around me? It doesn't seem as if some omnipotent being will reward any kindness on my part. It isn't as if the favor will for some reason be returned to me.
I may now be unfit for being with another, but only because I have for so long been alone that now I only resent those around me, blinded by a delusion that perhaps they have it better than me or are somehow responsible for my blight.
While I know there are other kindred souls like me out there, for some reason I cannot take solace int this, for when you are alone, it's hard to believe there are others like you.
OMFG PUT ON SOME MASCARA AND JUMP INTO AN ABYSS OF LOVE-DEAD SOULS ALREADY.
>>841 Yeah, i was like that in the beginning. But eventually you destroy that hope completely (no hope=no despair). I just accept that i will be alone and there are no disappointments or no rewards, but it's much nicer here then i was a Love Seeking Fool.
Hope you find "peace".
>>842
I lost my mascara, can I borrow yours?
I have no problem with being alone. However, being alone is fine as long as you have people to hang out with in your spare time. If not a significant other, you might as well have some very good friends who you can spend time with. I really wouldn't know what I would do if I didn't have the friends I have.
However, I have noticed that they will not always be there for more. Slowly they too will find girlfriends or boyfriends to be with or even fiancees in some cases. Because I'm in the midst of this entire process happening, I become more worried about my own future relationships with girls. My 24th birthday just passed and I've never kissed a girl before. I suppose I'll need another 24 years to get a serious girlfriend. Two of the girls that I've ever considered going out with already have boyfriends and are too heavily marriage oriented. For whatever reason, they'll probably end up marrying their current boyfriends since they're too insecure that they can find a better match. I'm not saying their boyfriends are terrible people, but they're kind of jerks in comparison to me. But most people generally are. Perhaps my own sense of morality and ethics has prevented me from entering a relationship. I just think that taking advantage of girls who are drunk or emotionally vulnerable is wrong. But apparently, it works for a lot of people and girls don't seem to mind that too much.
i know no nice cool cute girls. does fashion sense give a clue to a girls personality? who do i go for. Im talking about really interesting high caliber types
YOU JUST REACHED A NEW LOW BY ASKING A WOMAN TO BORROW HER MAKEUP.
BTW, THE ANSWER IS NO.
>>845
Seeing your friends with significant others sure does suck.
Just like a good vacuum cleaner.
>>Nobody cares about me being alone. Nobody care about my emotional needs.
On the bright side, at least you figured this out sooner rather than later. Too often, you find that the average person is someone who goes around thinking everyone else in the world is personally invested in his/her happiness.
But that's never been the case. Self-interest drives our culture, and people are typically disinclined to care about anything outside their own private spheres of interest. This is neither good nor bad; it's simply the way things are.
>>850
hahaha i laughed to that one :D
>>851
Sure is ironic how people are belittled if they're "insensitive."
Belittled by whom? The "sensitive" types?
To tell the truth, I don't think I'm that bad of a guy; I keep myself looking decent, and I have plenty of friends. People around me seem to think I'm a pretty cool guy, and I hear girls think I'm attractive, despite the fact that I rarely talk to anyone outside of my group of friends. But my problem is that I have NO idea how to approach, talk to, or maintain a relationship with a girl. My friends tell me to just wing it, but the few times I tried it I ran out of things to talk about within minutes. ):
My roommate's girlfriend and my ex-girlfriend are living together this year and they just moved in. I have a feeling they are scheming. I'm armed if that is the case.
Guys I am Anal Otoko I was posting somewhere in 2006 with a few different nicks, I was desperate etc. (the usual story) but now I have a wonderful girlfriend, and I didn't find her on the net this time, she came directly from the REAL WORLD!!! She's a NORMAL girl!! Isn't it so ridiculously HUGE that it seems almost impossible? Well anyway, we've been together for more than a year now... life is good aaah.
>>858
You were trolling around if I remember well?
Wait let me see... not single, check. Not a rant, check. What the hell are you doing in this thread?
Oh well, good for you anyway. Good luck out there.
Clearly >>858 has just phoned up to wash his head at us.
Okay so I was at this wedding (working) and there really were some cool girls there. Especially one, really cute, seemed to have great fun on the dancefloor, and cool overall. I wasn't sure if she had a boyfriend or whatever (and nowadays I seem to care a bit less about these things as long as it's innocent, while before it would have stopped me right there), so I started lightly flirting with her (eye catch, smiles, funny comment about something happening, some disinterested compliment, a sliiiight bit of patronizing... well mostly harmless things).
At the end of my shift I was roaming around the room to grab some stuff of mine, kinda dancing my way around the room (yeah, I can't help it when there's music). And there she goes, grabs my hands and pulls me to the dancefloor to dance a rock'n'roll. I tell her that I don't really know how to dance rock'n'roll, at least not at two and she says something like "well whatever, me neither". By the way at that moment I was sure that one of the guests was her bf (and a close friend of the groom, too). So followed a lull in my head, and possibly a few minutes of cool-but-awkward-like-i'm-not-dancing-with-her dance, and she walk away. I turned the other way pretending to go grab coffee (which I was supposed to be doing in the first place), and also walked away utterly confused about what just happened. I mean, she really looked like she wanted to dance with me - and I wasn't even a guest.
I'm still not sure if this is a critical failure at seduction or a huge success in not making a possible mess - but either way I had to vent about me not getting to do more stuff with/to her. I mean goddamn she was cute and hot and fun. Shit.
WHAT THE HELL WOMEN, STOP CONFUSING ME WHEN I'M SUPPOSED TO BE THE ONE LEADING!
>>845
24 years? I guess I better turn on my aggression mode now before I reach your mark. But seriously, I know how that is and I guess being exposed to a world filled with relationships and people together just makes me a tad too conscious about hooking up with someone. It sometimes makes me think whether that made me make a run for it, or something like that.
>> I really wouldn't know what I would do if I didn't have the friends I have.
I'm also not sure what you'd do, but I know I'm in that boat -- 24, never kissed/dated/etc., and friendless for the last six years or so.
It's a pretty lonely life, but if I keep myself busy, it's not too unbearable. And I'm pretty good at keeping myself busy.
I was right and my roommate stole my knife. Fuck drama...
I love my ex, but she has a new boyfriend. I'm kind of sad that I cant have her back. I guess it was my fault the whole time. I secretly wish she'd break up with her boyfriend for me, but I don't want to wish it. One person would probably be as depressed as me. I need to stop thinking of her.
i just dont get it.
I am 20, considered pretty by a lot of my friends, i am outgoing, upbeat, love music and learning, have a good sense of humor and am also overweight.
for the longest time i figured it was my weight that was stopping guys from asking me out, but then i am talking with one of my other friends, she's got about... 50 lb more then me, and a personality that i can find somewhat obnoxious sometimes. but SHE has a boy friend!!!
WTF do i just scare them away???
i mean i am 20 and have NEVER been asked out even once... unless we are going to count some ass hole in high school who did it was a practicle joke.
>>considered pretty by a lot of my friends
friends can lie to make you feel better, that's not to say that they always lie, just sometimes a lie might be nicer.
>>867
ha ha ha ha lol yeah i guess... but i mean its one of those things where like i know when i am having a Fugly day and its just like wtf, and i mean if i dropped some weight, (which i am working on) i would look like my mom in her 20's and she was effin georgeous... not just cause its my mom either cause when i saw a pic i was like... you are kidding me right? not saying that i am effin georgous but just... lol ok... i'm done digging this hole ^-^
>>868
you make my life ^-^
i guess to a certain extent that could be it
'cept if i have never even been asked out to reject someone who is below my standards... how can my standards be keeping me alone.....
friggen rawr
Most girls I know in your situation would just wear a low cut top, flirt shamelessly, and act all clueless and innocent about sex/relationship stuff. Remember: men are dumb.
ha ha ha ha
>>870
i get it, i dont get picked up because i dont dress like a whore, and dont act like a ditz!!! :D
lol i get it, i think i would rather stay single and classy and wait for a classy man then turn into one of those ^-^
My girlfriend just internet-broke-up with me. :/
>>872
Ouch. Hard.
>>871
Yeah, right, whatever. I'm what most would consider a classy man and no one ever got to me. I used to have a somewhat special style (nothing too weird though), was kind and gentleman-ish, funny, talented in many domains, kind whatever. Best friend material. Got broken-hearted, and in an access of rage and cynism decided to try the "player" attitude. Girls falling all over the place. They didn't even get that I was acting that way out of spite or worse, it made them think my act was even hotter or I don't know.
What I believe you think are "classy men" are most unlikely to come to you and whatever. They'll shy out in a corner - or be kind to you and so good you won't even notice them as dateable material. Nice guy syndrom, you know, it's not just a myth. And it's kinda sad that most nice guys either die alone or get broken at some point by the same girl that claim to want a "knight in shiny armor" or whatever crap.
If you really want someone, then >>870 is the best way to go; you can still be "classy" after the seduction part. Otherwise, good luck waiting. There's probably one out there for you. But you'll wait. Maybe your lifetime. Waiting.
I've learned to look forward to the prospect of lifelong celibacy.
>>874
Probably the best way to look at it. But sex isn't really everything. I'd even settle for a lifelong roommate at this point with no sex involved.
>>863
Well, I have a fairly strong social dependency which I don't really show to others too much. Though my friends know I value them, I don't think they know exactly how much. But yeah, keeping busy is the best. Sometimes this might even help you to get a girlfriend by "being interesting." I don't quite know what girls mean when they say this. But apparently, I was out with some random people one time and a college girl on the rebound fell for a guy because he knew geography. (Standards also are lowered when you are recovering from a past relationship.) My outlook on life, well, I haven't decided on too much. I'm a bit of an optimist. It's just hard as a research student to get to know others since you do make significantly less than other people. It's hard to go out and buy drinks for other people without conscious of the cash you're spending though you'd like to reciprocate someone else's actions.
everyone needs to experience love in their life ^.^
otherwise you haven't lived to the full extent.
keep going! you'll find her/him one day :]
coming from someone who is 15, i don't think you've experienced "love" before.
Coming from someone whom of which obviously came from a bad relationship, I don't think you have either.
which is why i'll keep trying ^^
well not at the moment...hehe
Y'know, I can't help but thing my friends are all conspiring to keep me single my entire life. So I'm thinking I should just kill em all and my problems will be solved.
Let God sort them out and may the Devil have mercy!
FUCK! I fell for my friend again...at least this is not the first time it has happened. Maybe I will luck out and she will tell me to fuck off.
I wouldn't say I like being single as much as I love not being with my ex. I'd like to meet someone new, yet I'm a little gun shy. Don't want another bad experience. Ex was a complete ass wipe. Doesn't even call or visit his daughter.
I'm a more guarded and cautious now. Won't be jumping into anything as quickly as the last relationship. I don't really go out partying anymore, so I'm thinking about using a online dating site called True.com. Anyone here ever used this service? Btw are there older posters on this site or is this just for 20somethings and younger?
>>882
Naw there's older folks (well, at least one) here. I'm 29, never had a relationship before. Can't say I've used that site, all my money's going towards getting my master's degree anyhow, which leaves very little time to even meet people. Also sucks that I'm at a satellite campus so there's not even many girls around here to begin with. I do have a friend back home a few states over who I've got an interest in, doubt it's mutual though (is it ever?), but I can always hope.
who the hell believes in relationships? Nothing but trouble, the Better is is, the harder you will fall. The worse it gets, the harder you will fall. See where i'm getting? Such hire a prostitute, saves you money and effort.
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From what I've gathered, maybe you have bad taste in men.
>> 885
i agree with u :D,
why do you need to have the whole cow, when u can easily buy ready to drink milk in supermarket?
what is it that oblige human to date someone or even getting married?
why can we just enjoy our single life?
why why why??
No better place for a rant, I guess.
I'm 20 years old and have never been in a relationship. I'm apparently not ugly, but I'm so shy and socially retarded. But at the same time, I'm picky. Any guy who's expressed interest in me just doesn't appeal to me at all and I feel like I'd just be settling because I can't do better. At the same time, even if I do trick a guy I'd like into being with me, I feel like I'd just drive them away with my personality. I'm loud when I get to know people, lazy, short-tempered, and nerdy. I fear I'm going to be a crazy cat lady when I get old, spending my morning showers touching myself to video game pretty boys I'll never get. I feel like I deserve it. Dammit.
>>889
Sister you said my life's story.
Well, something like it at least.
im 24 and i kissed a guy.. and i liked it..........
(dotdotdot)
Basically, I'm single because I'm a self-loathing bastard. I like to act stoic and serious about things. So much so that I'm not much fun to be around. That, and I insist to almost every girl (and guy) I meet that I'm "not very sexual." I'm not asexual, but I fear my own sexuality. Maybe a tad bitter also, as I'm really short with people when I detect flirting.
My personal project is to break out of my shell, gain some enthusiasm, and go meet people. I have social finesse and good looks, but my bitter edge has really isolated and kept me single.
i've been in love with a girl for over 2 years...and i can't imagine myself with anyone other than her =/. Except I know that she'll never like me back.
>>894
now, that's sad. i feel your pain buddy
Soon to be not single, woo!
I confessed to hte guy I like recently, and just like me, he's not ready to be in a relationship right now. I'm just really hoping we'll stay in touch after I graduate and head off to college, 'cause when we are both ready, I definitely want to try being with him. I hope that he feels the same way when the time comes...
Say, he said that he "admired" me for being able to tell him how I felt. What do you think, guys? Do I have a right to be really excited by that?
not sure, to me it sounds more like he doesn't want anything from you... maybe he's just being nice, you now ?
>>898 yeah, when you graduate and go to college , he will be busy screwing college girls and you will probably be drunk dancing on a table. That's a good thing, because all this "oh he is the one" bullshit keeps people from meeting others and moving on in life.
goodluck (and yes, forgot about him, goodluck in college!)
Okay, lets tell a story that we've all heard before... I'm 19 and been girlfriendless since the day of my birth. Its just frustrating how whenever I try for a girl I'm so dimwitted that it always tends to fail. I'm your friendly neighborhood nice guy who is a little too introverted. I'm a little weird because unless I get that "love at first sight" feeling I'm generally not interested. Plus even if I'm not, I have trouble talking to attractive women. Sheesh I'm making myself feel lame here. Any ideas on how I can change myself?