Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
>>896
yo! congrats to you! how did you do it? enlighten us
Race to 1000 anyone? Just no double posting lol
I've been in love with a girl for some time now. She told me months ago that she didn't have any such feelings for me, but I still can't get over it. Same thing happened last time - it lasted until I got a new crush.
This time around I met a girl on a get-together last weekend, who I got a light crush on. No chance though - she lives 460 miles apart from me. What I discover afterwards when looking through pictures is that she has similar looks, and maybe a similar personality too.
It only reminds me of how much I want to be with the first girl. :'(
I'm desperately in need of a new crush, 4 months after my crush broke up with me and my mind still wanders back to her, despite that she barely acknowledges my existence anymore.
I'm single again, yay!
Now I just have to get through the next few months of being too broken to think about dating. Should be fun - looking back on it, the period of time when I was last single was WAY more fun that actually dating someone. Maybe next time I'll find someone my friends actually like.
Working hard so you could be with someone is tough -_-. Ack, what am I doing I'm falling behind
I still get a warm and fuzzy feeling when I think about what we did together. She took my first kiss, and I think it was her first too. :3
I miss her. ;_;
Lately, every single person of the opposite sex that I'm smitten by ends up having a significant other.
It's...disheartening.
Why is love so complicated!? >_<
Christmas is coming... To all the single guys/girls out there! good luck with this lonely part of the year!
I have a feeling it's gonna get worse once February rolls around.
And thanks for the luck. We need it.
I dunno... valentines day is only one night, but Chrismas shopping is a few weeks of seeing couples buying presents lol
It makes me look like an ass, but I don't do much XMas shopping to begin with, so it makes that few weeks breeze right by. The sight of red in February, however...
>>910
It's a known fact that for lonely people christmas is the worst part of the year. Sadly, it's not even a known fact, actually... it's a clinical statistic.
>>914
Yup. You said it.
Captcha: name of a friend of mine who stole a girl I loved a lot from me. Hopefully I'm an adept of irony.
A friend is trying to set me up. How often does that work, denizens of /love/?
It works good if you're not passive about the thing but get invested in it. Friends are a good leverage.
>>917 kick his ass?
Wait, I might have misunderstood this one. What is your friend doing exactly?
She's trying to set me up with one of her friends. Not quite sure as to how that's gonna turn out, see.
I am male 24 and she is 18. too young?
No freaking way too young!!!! She's fine :)
GO go go !!
yep, be happy pal. don't look back
>>921
Works if you make it work, then.
Merry Christmas and happy New Year, fellow lonely and broken hearts.
So, how's it going for you people? I'm having a massive end-of-year blues. Not only because of the end-of-year itself, but also because it was in this period that things developped (only to be badly crushed a few weeks later) with my last romantic interest, which I'm still not really over. And I'm gonna spend the new year's eve with friends and she'll be there.
Oh well.
>>926
Shit, I don't even really have plans for the new years. Friends keep telling me of things they're doing, and I've yet to receive an invite. Ah well.
My love life was pretty unfulfilling this year. Hopefully 2009 will be somewhat better.
End of the year isn't really going to well for me either.
The guy I've been semi-dating for the last few months gave
me a christmass present, so i was really happy, but a few
days later he told me that he just doesn't love me as a
girfriend. With this being the fourth time he rejected me
I've finally given up. It still hurts like hell though.
I found out my childhood friend developed such nerdy hobbies that it's adorable and I am afraid that if I might go and eat ramen with her I'll fall for her!!
so.. 08 ended.. single since six months now and not getting better..
well, there is a girl i like atm, but she's in a relationship since one year, so this isn't getting anywhere..
>>929 Sounds awesome. If any of my childhood friends turned into anything but bitches, I would be going back to the country to see if they're still available.
my 2008 was really bad... the girl that i was in love with picked my best friend over me.and on top of that shes totally ignoring me. hopefully 2009 will be better.
>>929 , What's so wrong about that? Sounds like a good thing, really. All my childhood friends are scattered off in various places around the world.
I've been using a facade of high standards and a broken heart to hide my debilitating shyness around the opposite sex in matters of "love". In actuality, I tend to fall for every woman that gets close to me.
Help?
Hueee! Just watch Densha Otoko and now I find the same thread. Lol, maybe there IS a Desha Otoko here? Secret Admire-san, are you Densha? : )
934, are you a ladykiller or what? Falling in love to every woman?! Maybe it's just your imagination, or your needs of love too much. Maybe... I'm not psychiatrist. : P
>>935 I'm thinking more of the third mixed with the second. I'm not a ladykiller, that's for sure.
How are the lonely hearts these first days of 2009, hm?
Hmm... maybe not XD
All hail singles! : P
sigh sigh sigh
i have totally given up my love life, it never works and i dont think it ever will =[ im 4ever in this thread
>>938
well maybe u should look around
there maybe someone 4 u...
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>>938
I think most of the users in this thread ever had such thoughts. maybe some of us still have and maybe some know better meanwhile..
I know it sounds dumb but it happens mostly if you expect it at least ;)
I've decided to stop pursuing relationships at this point in my life, because I'm too busy and it's too much hassle. Fooling around with platonic friends is soooo much better.
>>942 he means friendzoned, probably a masochist
I've never really had a real relationship (there was one, but it was more of a platonic, experimental thing than anything) and, though I'm not terribly desperate, it frustrates me to NO end to see happy couples holding hands, etc...
I don't really know how to talk to people...T_T I always end up saying the wrong thing (I'm among friends, right? haha). The only people who have shown any interest in me whatsoever are guys I've met on the Internet, which is really frustrating.
I'm to shy to initiate anything IRL...or maybe my standards are just too high...OTL
Oh, how I can commiserate. It stings even more when you see your friends, or people that you know, doing all of that mushy stuff.
I've found that talking to people is a delicate balance of whatever comes to your head first with yourself making sure that whatever you're saying isn't stupid. It's harder than it looks, oftentimes I dwell on what I want to say and end up being silent.
>>945
Forsooth. :[ That's especially true when your friends in relationships used to be just as lonely and socially awkward as you are now...or when the person you used to date goes on to date others while you stay single and lonely. QQ
Yeah...I've tried to do that and always end up failing. I'm so afraid of saying something stupid that I end up being boring and quiet.
I'm mostly okay with being single at the moment, but the lack of sex is killing me.
And the lack of any physical contact at all is even worse. I want someone to cuddle with so badly. Sex would be nice too.
I miss the cuddling and long conversations, right now i'm looking for someone, cause I'm young and I don't need to be down life is there, to guide us to a new chapter in our lives
That's how I am right now too.
I don't honestly mind being single too terribly much, but I miss having physical contact.
I had a movie night with a female friend of mine about a week ago, and the whole time I was thinking about how much I wished we were cuddling....
Blergh, I might have complained about this before on this thread, but damn does it sting when they end up being taken.
when you need someone the most. they are never there to help...
V-Day approaching! Every single to the shelters! Love-love couples sighted everywhere!
>>952
uggh singles awareness day,
the most unsavory time of year for me.
and wouldn't you know it its on a saturday too!
I guess I'll spend half the day sleeping in and the other half playing video games with friends.
thankfully I'll be drunk on 13th and spend next day sleeping
Man, I was buying chocolate for this girl, right?
I just couldn't choose! I ended up taking just plain milk chocolate only because it had a cute cat and a tiny hearts on it!
oh man what a pain.. aren't i gonna get hitched?
21 yo female, never been kissed let alone had a boyfriend.
I've been asked out several times but I'm either not attracted to them, or I don't feel like they like me for who I am. I think this is mainly owing to the fact that I look about 13-14. I get along with guys a lot better than girls, but I get friend zoned because of how young I look I think.
I feel your pain. 23 year old male, but I look like I still belong in high school. Makes it hard with the opposite sex.
awfully out of luck aren't we?
haha, I'm not against internet hookups, but anonymous posting makes it difficult to do this.
Looking young isn't necessarily a bad thing ^o^
Hey, it's Otakun! How did it work out with that girl?
Three times in a row now, the only girls who have shown any interest in me (albeit online) have abandoned me before the date we were meant to meet up. I'm developing a horrible abandonment complex as a result.
I'm not ugly, I'm not socially incapable, I'm friendly, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I wish someone kind would offer some body warmth to me for once in my life. ;_;
I guess things are on a big freeze due to the circumstances. I'm not too horribly heartbroken though.
haaaaaaaaaaaah.....im bored.... and dont have any friends to go out with.... and im bored of surfing in the net..... im bored of my life...... im bored of my loneliness......im bored of not having gf.......... im bored of my exsistence......im bored because im bored......im so bored i dont know what to write..... haaaaaaaaaaaaah.....in other words, im bored....
I have yet to have a relationship with a woman. I don't know how to make you people know what I'm feeling but I trust that you don't need my words to bring that feeling out in you since I'm sure you're victim to it yourselves.
I want someone to be close to. I want to have someone to hug and tell her that I love her. I want to have someone I can talk to hear something interesting or funny that... I don't even know. I just want someone there. I want to be there for someone. Just to be close, to have basic human contact. To care for someone and to be cared for.
Now, it's just this feeling of being unfulfilled. I am so freaking frustrated and impatient! I know that I'm not going to find someone in undergrad but I have another fucking year to go! I'm just so lonely. I feel like there's a part of me that isn't there and I'm searching and waiting and nothing seems to fill that hole. I feel like I've missed out by not having even a little bit of this contact. Why is it so lonely?!
Well, that was therapeutic though ultimately pointless since it won't help me find anyone any faster. It does make me feel better to know I'm not alone though.
If you want something you gotta work for it. Like all things in life all good things must be earned. Its not that the fates have cursed you to be single, but you cursed yourself of being single if you don't do anything at all.
Right now I may be avoiding relationships due to my hectic schedule, but in summer I'm going all out. We all got to surpass the you of yesterdays through sheer effort! Get out there and find yourself a girlfriend! GO!
To all the guys that feel like they can't live without a gf, or in general are miserable and consumed by lonliness, let me start off by saying I've been there and I know the pain.
But the most important thing to understand is that you need to be happy before someone else can make you happy. It is, in my experience, very unhealthy to depend upon someone else to make you happy. How can you love someone if you don't love yourself? You need to think about what is good in life and have the confidence to appreciate it. And trust me, confidence breeds appreciation from others.
My bottomline: you can't possibly make a relationship work if you are moping about your singleness. If you do manage to find a girl, this will lead to your happiness dependant upon someone else. And if it doesn't work out, that dependancy will destroy you.
I understand that. I'm hoping by the time I get better, I'm not completely behind in the dating race though... I'm 18 now and just starting to intend to learn to go out, socialise, etc, so I might feel very intimidated approaching dating late in the game. |:
I've been trying for over a decade to get to the point where I can love myself. Nothing works. Just when I think I might be moving upwards and out of this pit, the wall gives way and I end up even farther down than I was before.
I suppose this means I'm doomed to a life of isolation.
Like I said, you doom yourself if you don't keep trying. Whats the point in life if you don't take any risks or keep clawing through the hard times? The only one who can pull themselves out of the pit is you, stop quitting on yourself and give yourself a chance
I no longer see the point in trying. Women take up too much time and money and for what? The occasional use of their vagina? If that's what it's going to take, I'm just fine with my hand, thanks. And the chances are incredibly high that I'm not going to be the only one using said vagina anyway. Women cannot be trusted.
I'm done giving in to societal pressure to date them. I'm finished with relationships, at least until something perfect comes along, which I know will never happen. It is a pointless never-ending game where you both push your ideals on the other, never actually changing anything. It just costs time and money. And it will hurt you in the end. Not worth it. I cannot trust women again. Or at least I can't trust the things that attempt to pass themselves off as women these days.
So go prance around in slutty clothes and sleep with strangers you meet in bars. Just don't come crying to me when you're 40 and need a "nice guy" to look after your bastard children. Goodbye relationships.
My oh my someone has fallen to the dark side of love >_>
Lets have more hope shall we?
Well said. My prospects may be poor but I'll be damned if i give up yet
I'm still holding out that the right one is out there.
If I have not found some one yet it is only because fate has seen fit to spare me the pain of pointless relationships destined to ether fail or trap me in an emotional hell. I'll just have to keep waiting and looking until I find a women to kick the worlds ass with.
I'll keep this short and simple: Nobody controls your destiny but you. Create your own fate with your own two hands.
>>977
I only partially agree with you, Otakun. You might be one of the greatest instruments in forging your destiny, you're still chained to your surroundings and to luck. You're only a small, small piece in a vast machinery - don't think you're free to do whatever. Think chaos theory.
Now that doesn't mean you can just let yourself go by the flow; but you are not that free either.
You are as free as you allow yourself to be.
If you're a lazy person, of course you won't achieve much freedom.
Freedom is a pipe dream.
I've always believed that fate and your own actions are entwined.
Though I despise people who blame their troubles on destiny and resign themselves to it.
It's not a question of "destiny" like "it's been written in the stars, it HAD to happen", etc. But sometimes you just have to accept fatality and the fact that you're shit out of luck. Otherwise, you'll end up blaming every single mishap on yourself and it's quickly going to be unbearable. Trust me, I've been there.
Don't resign and wimp out, but don't be too hard on yourselves either. You can't control everything.
Honestly it is a numbers game. Some hit the jack pot while others are left out in the cold. But the fact is you have to keep playing before you can hit a home run. And even if you find a girl then it does not mean you will be with her forever. Think about it this way, lets say 1/10 girls you ask out will say yes. And 1/5 of those girls you will get a second date with. And 1/3 of those girls you will date long enough to have a relationship with. And 1 out of the 2 girls you have relationship with will be with you forever. So that means 1 girl out of the 300 you ask out will be the ONE. So don't give up if you cant get one.
>> So that means 1 girl out of the 300 you ask out will be the ONE. So don't give up if you cant get one.
Actually, that sounds like a really good argument for saying, "fuck it, this is hopeless; I'm gonna drink myself to death."
I'm not looking for sex, I just want a loving, stable relationship with someone who cares that I exist. Apparently that's asking a lot.
That's asking a lot of from a person that doesn't know you. Think from the other's perspective, too.
So what can I expect out of dating, then, if a stable relationship is out of the question?
>>984
Actually, I understood his point as a "keep trying" - statistically, one out of 300 is low but still possible.
And 1 in 300, to me, sounds like "impossible."
After all, you could try 300 times and still not succeed. And even asking a girl out once is hard enough as it is.
Enough with the speculating on how low the odds are! Just get out and mingle already! Meeting people is the first step to dating!
first of all - too much thinking guys (gals possibly?)... if you want to find someone, it's just about trying and not giving up... just like Otakun said - get out and search... what I'm recently finding out is that too much thinking about these love matters will just fuck you up but when you just try, it's worth it and it gets you somewhere...
also... let's say that 1 of 300 girls is the one... considering size of earth, the chances of meeting that girl sure are very low because she could also be from other state... other side of planet probably? but still, if you look around, how many happy couples can you see? couples that are together for the length of their lives (ask them if they were together from the beginning or if they needed to go through 300 other people and you'll hear myriads of different answers)...
skipping to my theory - I don't believe that there is something like ,,true love" (or the ,,one")... you just fit with the girl in a romantic way more or less... sometimes you find out after long time that you fit less or sometimes after that long time you find your friend suddenly attractive... and there's plenty of girls with plenty of possibilities also affected with plenty of things because people can change, can suddenly open their eyes, can get run over by train, can get molested by drunk man in a train and be saved by you etc. etc. ... but outcome in a form of relationship is the same, either it's happy or not - in that case you can collect experience, memories and just move on to next person... or you can just die as a lone coward
after going through some experiences, i realized you cant go "search" for it, you have to let it come to you naturally, the more you search for it the more it runs away, you just have to let it come to you =]
That still requires you to leave your basement, so hop to it!
>how many happy couples can you see?
None at all. I see some deluded lovestruck couples in the honeymoon phase of their relationship who will get bored soon enough, I see people cheating on each other, I see married couples who hate each other but stay together for their children and I see people who only stay together because they're scared that they can't do anything else.
It's nice to daydream about things like love and friendship, but when it comes down to it, those things are impermanent and nothing but temporary illusions that will hurt you in the end.
It won't come to you naturally. It won't come to you if you look. You'll get into pointless relationships over and over looking for something that only exists in fairytales. And then you'll get old and you'll just settle for whatever comes you're way because that's what society expects of you. Lasting happiness cannot be found in relationships.
You sound like someone who was just rejected or who has been rejected a lot.
Wow getting to close to 1000
http://personals.aol.com/articles/2009/04/16/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/
Read it and get out there
>>994
well, if that's true, I'd enjoy those short moments of happiness rather than sit on my ass and do nothing...
oh god, i was there when they first started the single rant thread, and here we are to the 3rd one!! 998
hell, never thought that I could have the 999 post... so... I wish luck to all of you to not be single anymore...
AAAaaaaand 1000GET!
BUT RANT IS NOT OVER, MY FRIENDS!