Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
A friend of mine has a sister I've known since she was about 11 years old. I was about 14 when I met her so I paid her no mind relationshipwise but stayed friends with her up til today.
Now I'm 21 and she's 18. And she's so fuckin hot. And I'd love to ask her out but I'm positive I'm not the type of person that she's go for due to the fact that I'm an otaku and she's a college party girl. She calls me every once in awhile to hang out and we have a good time and all but it's just me and her like she likes to hang out with me but she's almost embarassed to be seen with me.
She's planning to move away in about 3 months too ;_; We took roadtrips together just me and her drank together but...
Chances are I'm hopeless by now unless something big happens.
>>701
You put stupid romantic story ideas in my head. Such a cute history you have.
I'm imagining a sappy romantic continuation... the girl moves away, and you don't see each other for a long time. She meets a lot of guys, but none of them are what she really wants. She eventualy feels a bit disillusioned. You, the otaku, felt pretty down when she left your life, and it got you thinking about your situation. You decided that although you weren't going to change yourself from being an otaku, you also wanted to be the type of guy that can attract hot girls like this. With the brains of an otaku, and the attractive power of a regular good looking guy; this is one of the coolest and rarest kind of guy.
Given your long history with this girl, you inevitably cross paths again sometime, and by then, you've acheived your goal. Of course, by then, you'd pretty much forgotten the feelings you used to have for her. Until, of course, you see her again. She's matured somewhat, and you've become attractive to her. The connection which caused you two to be friends in the past is re-established. Sakura petals swirl around. You see eachother again, and an epic romance quickly blossoms.
I hate it when posts seem personally relevant. Now I'm going to have to spend the rest of the night convincing myself that you're talking about someone else.
Well, there was this one girl who is actually my ex. We'd probably still be together if I didn't fuck up our relationship. Anyways, she's pretty much the only girl in this town that I can see myself being with and I just need to find a way to get back in her good graces. Let's see... Alright, my Junior year of high school is when I first started going out with her mostly because I was too shy to ask her during Sophomore year but I decided to go out on a limb and blah blah blah. We went out for about three months which was a very slow three months, I haven't even kissed her, but due to my old bad habit of lying to other girls she lost her trust in me when I said something that got out of hand and broke up with me afterwards. Now It's Senior year and I think she's forgiven me but I don't really have much of a chance to talk to her anymore. Like I stated before however, I've just got to try to get back with her again (Pathetic, huh?).
I can't think of anything else except her face and voice. She smiles when I smile, and laughs at my lame jokes. All these things are great, but she isn't mine and I have no idea what to do.
I've only seen the girl once and I already know we have very little in common although if it were a few years back it would have been different. This lack of information means it can't be love (yet?) and there's no obvious sexual drive behind my thoughts so I have to classify it as infatuation.
But despite this lack of things in common and my rational view of the situation, I still can't help but fall for her.
I'm so over shit like this. Life would be so much easier if I could switch off the emotions and spend my life smacking shit with a crowbar.
I am in a somewhat similar situation. I don't want girls who I have sexual drive after to be my girlfriends. But when it's the other way around (when I am attracted to them for reasons different than sexual) I fall for them.
Don't know what's the problem about it, but I know that some guys are like that. The moral of the story is that this girl is likely what you are searching for...
Dang, i wanted a gf so bad for awhile, but then i see all this shit happening in these relationships and im still 17...so ive sorta been wary of others, trust is not something that comes easily to me
on the other hand when i was about the confess to a girl, she blew me off before i even asked her.......that sorta completely crushed me............
She probably has a guy anyway. She answered the phone a few times during the evening, I was going to ask "call from the boyfriend?" which I thought would have been an amusing way to ask the question but the words wouldn't come out.
hm. i've found myself in love with two different people. i'd be incredibly happy with either one of them, but at the moment they're both completely inaccessible - one due to distance, the other to sexual orientation.
with distance-guy i at least have a chance, but only if we somehow find ourselves living in the same country; he doesn't "do" long-distance stuff, and to be quite frank i'm not too enamoured with the idea either. but he does actually love me back, which is more than i can say for the other guy... and distance is at least something that can be overcome.
as for sexual-orientation-guy, distance is no problem, he lives only a few streets away from me and we often see each other around the place... but he's straight (and i'm not). and in a few weeks he's leaving and i might never see him again. maybe just before he leaves i could tell him everything on the 0.0000001% chance he's in the closet or something... i wouldn't have much to lose by that point, i suppose. although i'd probably have to be really drunk just to have the balls to do it.
>...just to have the balls to do it.
Nevermind me but I laughed at the conclusion of your post. No offense eh, I have no problems with that, but this formulation was too awesome considering the phrase that just preceded it :)
I feel your pain, >>709.
In actual fact I am still riding a pretty bad obsession with someone who I regard as inaccessible. She was the SO of my late best friend, so even though she's available and has in the past obliquely indicated interest, I have chosen to do the right thing and bury the feelings.
The obsession was actually getting to be pretty bad but now I have another one to keep me occupied which is slightly more realistic, which is the one mentioned. I saw her again tonight, and it reaffirmed my feelings a bit but we didn't get quality talking time at all.
My mind has been going in fail-loops thinking of plans for first dates and stuff so I've been obsessively compiling data to improve my false spontaneity.
It's awful and wonderful at the same time. I don't know if that even makes sense.
Well, it was fun, but that's the end of my story here.
So long people, I love this woman.
they sure tell a lot of sad stories here
おめでとう ございます！！！
i wish i could understand what do you mean...
I've been wanting to be in a relationship lately
(I blame reading this board for that)
Alas, I know of no girls at my school that I am interested in.
I am interested in four girls, none of which want anything to do with me.
Obviously I like some more than others. But unrequited love four times in a row is quite pathetic.
21 year old virgin never been on a date or have a girlfriend ;_;
I'm 22 and I've never ever had a serious relationship. I'm terrified that if I don't meet someone in the next couple of years, I never will. I know I'm young, but it feels like time is running out, because, after school, it's hard to meet people, and then slowly, when you enter your late twenties, more and more people around you are getting married...
Already some of my friends are engaged and it's fucking terrifying.
Good morning everyone, I'M SINGLE AND IT SUCKS
I hate people who aren't virgins. What makes them think they deserve to be so lucky?
GREEDY CORPORATE PIGS
MAY THEY ALL BURN IN HELL
RRRRRAAAAAGGGGGEEEEE
Today I kissed a girl. It was quite fun.
What?? That's not a singles rant! That sounds like good news, even!
Get that shit out of here!
Signed,
-A Bitter, Poisonous Single
>>722
I WAS ONCE LIKE YOU.
And I will probably remain as it anyway, i don't see this going anywhere.
I once waited for a girl for 2 years, but i got blown off so badly i'm so scared to put on hopes for this girl i like now, ive had 13 rejections in my past but now i'm so close to this girl, BAHH!!!
>>725 13 rejections in my past
is that in a row??
That'd a major losing streak man. I think your out of the finals.
Guys who use the "strength by numbers" approach to getting a gf often fail because they come off as desperate. And even in the odd possibility that some girl falls for it, the relationship never lasts because she finds out that you've asked out all her friends before getting to her.
>>729
Tell me about it. At the moment I have two candidates. One is really cool and awesome, and I like her a lot but she gives off this vibe of "no" half the time while giving smirks and encouraging glances the rest of the time. The other is definitely interested in me and she's nice too, but I really want the first one. They're friends. So if I go for the first and miss, then I lose the second. If I go for the second I will never know about the first.
>>730
Go for the second one. The first one sounds like a tease who gets pleasure out of heartbreaking; sounds like a scumbag to me.
agree with >>731
probably you want no 1 more because its more challenging?? dont do it.
>>One is really cool and awesome
how how does she compare to no 2 in terms of look and personality?
do you like no 2 (you didnt mention liking her) at all??
or you are only considering her because she likes you?? if this is the case dont go for no 2, only gonna hurt her, dont play with a girl's feeling, you should know the feeling (no 1 did it to you)
>>while giving smirks and encouraging glances the rest of the time
btw forgot to mention this, there's a chance that this teasing is in your head, meaning you got the wrong idea. dont read too much into this teasing unless she gives real indication that she likes you.
Go for none, love is a travesty!
well for no1, it's possible that she's sending the "no" signals because she knows that her friend is interested in you and does not want to hurt her friend's feelings by letting you know her feelings for you as well. Well, that is only a possibility.
If you think you will regret going after no1 then.. go after her. Some people don't mind dating their friends' ex; and if no2 really likes you that much, if being w/ no1 doesn't work out, maybe she'll still go out with you. Who knows...
Comparatively I would rate #1's looks higher, but probably #2's personality is slightly better, and she's also a closer fit in terms of pastimes.
I'd say I like both, but #1 caused the initial spark. I started to like #2 a little later on getting to know her better, but #1 was continuing the routine so when I think about it rationally she's a bad option, and yet rational thought still flies out the window when she's around...
>>733 I know it's all in my head. At times when they're around I can't even think straight so who even knows which indications are real.
How come everybody I love has a boyfriend?
Is it my bad luck? Do the powers that be get a good laugh out of this?
I HOPE YOU ARE HAPPY, ANGELS, BECAUSE I MIGHT AS WELL BE IN HELL RIGHT NOW
single male.
looking for significant other.
i am very sad. ;_;
I feel like dying.
i have been dreaming about my ex for the past several weeks. every night new dream, new situation but she is always in it and she is always pissing me off. its starting to get annoying
While I lie awake at night and think about the girl I like, she's getting railed by her boyfriend.
I'd like to meet someone special. I just wish I can change my outlook, that's all.
I just saw the girl I like in the embrace of another man. I think it's a sign to let go, but it's easier said than done.
Yet another night sitting in front of the computer listening to depressing music. Such a vicious cycle that is life.
I thought being single would suck, but that was before I had a girlfriend. Now I'm single once more, and, well, it's FUCKING AWESOME.
I had this dream yesterday, where i was sitting in front of my computer and as i left the room and came back, there was a young lady sitting..perfect; blond hair,brown eyes..etc and i instantly knew that the universe OWNED ME THIS, i was like "hell yeah, finally something GOOD in this life i call pain". She was hugging me,kissing and suddenly i woke up.
Never ever did any dream hurt as much as this one. I curse you MORPHEUS of the Endless!
I had the same thing happen to me, but I saw it as almost liberating. Prior to witnessing the two of them making out at a party, I had been agonizing over how to ask her out on a date. Suddenly, that ceased to be a priority.
749GET
>>746
I'm the opposite. I was single forever and didn't care, then I got a girl, then I lost the girl and now I care.
Also, 750GET. Unless someone jews me at the last minute.
>>748
how is it liberating? Now you have to worry about lost love to some unqualified loser
He wasn't a loser -- I knew the guy, and he was obviously a better match for her than I would have been.
And in the end, I'm not worrying about anything. I was always extremely unconfortable around her, and now that she's definitively out of my life, I feel like a weight has been removed from my shoulders. If that isn't liberating, I'm not sure what is.
Liberation is finally finding love after a lifelong grueling struggle
Considering that I'm never likely to find love, I'll take what I can get, even if it's not ideal. My current situtation is liberating enough for me.
I wish I could think like that. Instead, I wallow in self-defeat.
being single leads to a lot of disposable income, so its not so bad.
>>756 money < warm bed with a loving girlfriend. i would prefter that choice, maybe others not
>>757 A warm bed with a loving girlfriend without money would lead to the girl would leave you for someone who can support her, and take her out to fancy restaurants.
<<758
Any girl who would "leave you for someone who can support her and take her out to fancy restaurants" isn't even worth being in a bed with, that's not a loving girlfriend, that's a bloodsucking leech in human form...
All the same, a relationship in poverty isn't likely to last.
>>760, Oh, absolutely agreed, a loser who doesn't get a job is a loser no matter how you look at it, it was just the wording about the girl that was just as bad, about a girl who needs or expects that guy to support her & take her to fancy restaurants... A girl who doesn't work or even try to support herself or expects fancy restaurants is just as bad as that guy who lays about without working, himself;
Why is this so far down? Has nobody no rants to unleash!?
>>762
Eh...just seems kinda' pointless to rant, at least to me. I've accepted my fate and just try not to think about my eternal singleness. Raging over it just causes more frustration which I don't need, after all.
>>763 One of the smartest & most productive things I've seen all-thread:) Ranting & raging over it, whilst legitimately caused, still isn't terribly productive, and even while it's here, in relative privacy & anonymity and it's good to vent, it still doesn't even give you a good feeling of confidence afterward, which is what attracts people of the opposite sex;
>>765
Optimism, indeed, blind feel-good optimism isn't going to get you anything, but it is confidence that will; The ranting is pointless, but if you're confident, and someone seems to have potential when you encounter them, then you're going to make a move, and that confidence, the fact that you don't need them or are desperate, but just interested in them, is what produces results.
>>766 Thanks, and yes, it's true
Why are asian guys at uni so shallow?
Our "closed" eyes have not only taken away our peripheral vision, but also our ability to see people for who they are.
Jokes aside, I think it's because their parents (most likely Asian-born Asians) put so much importance on outward appearances and perceptions. That's why my mother hated the fact that I dressed like a punk rocker in high school (in other words, looking like a bum).
Girls are like Internet domain names. The good ones are already taken.
I can only find two classes of girls:
I need to find a girl I like. I should post about what I like in women, but it can be summarized as: looks like a woman, but acts as the polar opposite of the average girl: mature, sincere, serious, romantic, deep, has something she likes doing in life other than dancing and buying pairs of shoes.
Awesome analogy, girls are like domain names. Indeed. Even if you backordered, there's still no guarantee.
http://en.nothingisreal.com/wiki/Why_I_Will_Never_Have_a_Girlfriend
I just read this...
so...depressing...
>>773
I think it was meant to be funny.
>>771
I am going to steal this analogy for my own purposes.
I just prefer not having girl friend because I am too lazy...
Besides I just like helping others out find bf/gf and such.
I think I just like being single (Maybe because I already dated before) but I think it's ok to be single if the person feels comfortable just being single. -Kira
guys are scared to talk to me. :{
>>777
Then talk to them first!
Many guys would love to have the girl initiate conversation.
I'll never be single because I will always have my hug pillow ;_;.
That "calculation" is bullshit. He states that only 2,275% of all of the females aged 18-25 can be defined as "beautiful". Seems like someone has some unhealthy standards
man what's there to talk about?
can't we all just talk about something else?
hey there's nothing wrong with being single. it just means you have more opportunities open to you.
>>786 Yeah, tell that to the rest of guys posting here :/
>>787
They just need to learn how to play the game. It takes just one experience to make you a good flirt, and each subsequent experience will make you more confident. I used to be in the mindset of "I'll always be alone, no one will ever love me", but you'd be amazed what can happen even if you aren't looking. Expand your horizons young ones (not that I'm old, 22), you'll find that girl (or guy) you like only if you really want it to happen, if you're willing to take that chance. I found my sweet heart and I'm gonna marry her after I graduate from college, not to brag but love does happen. I believe a lot of guys are lacking the confidence that they need, nothing ventured nothing gained is absolutely true.
>how to play the game
Damn you!
Also gb2mASF Neil.
yeah, you're right. it's happened to me to. you make friends with girls when you're not even looking for one and they may come to like you in the end. you may have an unexpected attraction to them.
Always remember that the more girls there are around you (and it's even better if you're flirtarious with them, even just for a joke) the easier it will be for you to approach other girls (because you'd be used to their presence), and also because this raises your social value. "Oh, he's popular with girls, I'm a girl, so I guess he should be popular with me". Yeah, it's really that stupid.
>>788
I call bullshit on that. I used to do that all the time and it never worked. If anything, it made me feel worse because it reinforced how much of a failure I truly am.
you're so fucking condescending!
>>788
How long did you have to wait?
Was it longer than five years?
>>788 i simply hate the "you lack confidence speech"..jeezes christ, what are we supposed to be? Brock Samson? 24x7 Bare chested pushups,aggresive motherfucker screaming from his car "hey baby!".Or do you mean a geek who doesn't give a fuck what people think,yet when he opens his mouth he is DENIED..so which one is the real confidence?
I don't think confidence is all there is,and what the hell is wrong with you? "when you aren't looking" has got to be the shittiest advice ever, it's these advices that keep guys from getting any. DONT DO ANYTHING, DO FREAKING SOMETHING! There is no Dencha bullshit,no FOREVER, no soulmate..there is only the present.
>>795
Having confidence doesn't mean you have to be a jackass, but neither does it mean that you just "don't give a fuck what people think".
It means being self-confident and having some self-esteem. It's an inner resource, not a question of outer behaviour.
>>796 But it manifests for a great part in outer behaviour. Maybe, just maybe..it's just being yourself and having the balls to open up without any psych.tactics to impress him/her=confidence.
>>797
Nope. Some people are very confident without being very outgoing, and it runs deeper into the way they speak, the body language, etc. This is subconsciously read by the people they speak to. It also slightly influences the way they think and interact in a conversation.
Having "psych. tactics" isn't incompatible with confidence, although confidence makes them less useful. But you're a bit right, too; it's in a way being yourself and having the balls to stand for what you are.
If it runs into the way they speak and their body language, then that is EXACTLY what is meant by manifesting in outward behaviour.
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