Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
>>748
how is it liberating? Now you have to worry about lost love to some unqualified loser
He wasn't a loser -- I knew the guy, and he was obviously a better match for her than I would have been.
And in the end, I'm not worrying about anything. I was always extremely unconfortable around her, and now that she's definitively out of my life, I feel like a weight has been removed from my shoulders. If that isn't liberating, I'm not sure what is.
Liberation is finally finding love after a lifelong grueling struggle
Considering that I'm never likely to find love, I'll take what I can get, even if it's not ideal. My current situtation is liberating enough for me.
I wish I could think like that. Instead, I wallow in self-defeat.
being single leads to a lot of disposable income, so its not so bad.
>>756 money < warm bed with a loving girlfriend. i would prefter that choice, maybe others not
>>757 A warm bed with a loving girlfriend without money would lead to the girl would leave you for someone who can support her, and take her out to fancy restaurants.
<<758
Any girl who would "leave you for someone who can support her and take her out to fancy restaurants" isn't even worth being in a bed with, that's not a loving girlfriend, that's a bloodsucking leech in human form...
All the same, a relationship in poverty isn't likely to last.
>>760, Oh, absolutely agreed, a loser who doesn't get a job is a loser no matter how you look at it, it was just the wording about the girl that was just as bad, about a girl who needs or expects that guy to support her & take her to fancy restaurants... A girl who doesn't work or even try to support herself or expects fancy restaurants is just as bad as that guy who lays about without working, himself;
Why is this so far down? Has nobody no rants to unleash!?
>>762
Eh...just seems kinda' pointless to rant, at least to me. I've accepted my fate and just try not to think about my eternal singleness. Raging over it just causes more frustration which I don't need, after all.
>>763 One of the smartest & most productive things I've seen all-thread:) Ranting & raging over it, whilst legitimately caused, still isn't terribly productive, and even while it's here, in relative privacy & anonymity and it's good to vent, it still doesn't even give you a good feeling of confidence afterward, which is what attracts people of the opposite sex;
>>765
Optimism, indeed, blind feel-good optimism isn't going to get you anything, but it is confidence that will; The ranting is pointless, but if you're confident, and someone seems to have potential when you encounter them, then you're going to make a move, and that confidence, the fact that you don't need them or are desperate, but just interested in them, is what produces results.
>>766 Thanks, and yes, it's true
Why are asian guys at uni so shallow?
Our "closed" eyes have not only taken away our peripheral vision, but also our ability to see people for who they are.
Jokes aside, I think it's because their parents (most likely Asian-born Asians) put so much importance on outward appearances and perceptions. That's why my mother hated the fact that I dressed like a punk rocker in high school (in other words, looking like a bum).
Girls are like Internet domain names. The good ones are already taken.
I can only find two classes of girls:
I need to find a girl I like. I should post about what I like in women, but it can be summarized as: looks like a woman, but acts as the polar opposite of the average girl: mature, sincere, serious, romantic, deep, has something she likes doing in life other than dancing and buying pairs of shoes.
Awesome analogy, girls are like domain names. Indeed. Even if you backordered, there's still no guarantee.
http://en.nothingisreal.com/wiki/Why_I_Will_Never_Have_a_Girlfriend
I just read this...
so...depressing...
>>773
I think it was meant to be funny.
>>771
I am going to steal this analogy for my own purposes.
I just prefer not having girl friend because I am too lazy...
Besides I just like helping others out find bf/gf and such.
I think I just like being single (Maybe because I already dated before) but I think it's ok to be single if the person feels comfortable just being single. -Kira
guys are scared to talk to me. :{
>>777
Then talk to them first!
Many guys would love to have the girl initiate conversation.
I'll never be single because I will always have my hug pillow ;_;.
That "calculation" is bullshit. He states that only 2,275% of all of the females aged 18-25 can be defined as "beautiful". Seems like someone has some unhealthy standards
man what's there to talk about?
can't we all just talk about something else?
hey there's nothing wrong with being single. it just means you have more opportunities open to you.
>>786 Yeah, tell that to the rest of guys posting here :/
>>787
They just need to learn how to play the game. It takes just one experience to make you a good flirt, and each subsequent experience will make you more confident. I used to be in the mindset of "I'll always be alone, no one will ever love me", but you'd be amazed what can happen even if you aren't looking. Expand your horizons young ones (not that I'm old, 22), you'll find that girl (or guy) you like only if you really want it to happen, if you're willing to take that chance. I found my sweet heart and I'm gonna marry her after I graduate from college, not to brag but love does happen. I believe a lot of guys are lacking the confidence that they need, nothing ventured nothing gained is absolutely true.
>how to play the game
Damn you!
Also gb2mASF Neil.
yeah, you're right. it's happened to me to. you make friends with girls when you're not even looking for one and they may come to like you in the end. you may have an unexpected attraction to them.
Always remember that the more girls there are around you (and it's even better if you're flirtarious with them, even just for a joke) the easier it will be for you to approach other girls (because you'd be used to their presence), and also because this raises your social value. "Oh, he's popular with girls, I'm a girl, so I guess he should be popular with me". Yeah, it's really that stupid.
>>788
I call bullshit on that. I used to do that all the time and it never worked. If anything, it made me feel worse because it reinforced how much of a failure I truly am.
you're so fucking condescending!
>>788
How long did you have to wait?
Was it longer than five years?
>>788 i simply hate the "you lack confidence speech"..jeezes christ, what are we supposed to be? Brock Samson? 24x7 Bare chested pushups,aggresive motherfucker screaming from his car "hey baby!".Or do you mean a geek who doesn't give a fuck what people think,yet when he opens his mouth he is DENIED..so which one is the real confidence?
I don't think confidence is all there is,and what the hell is wrong with you? "when you aren't looking" has got to be the shittiest advice ever, it's these advices that keep guys from getting any. DONT DO ANYTHING, DO FREAKING SOMETHING! There is no Dencha bullshit,no FOREVER, no soulmate..there is only the present.
>>795
Having confidence doesn't mean you have to be a jackass, but neither does it mean that you just "don't give a fuck what people think".
It means being self-confident and having some self-esteem. It's an inner resource, not a question of outer behaviour.
>>796 But it manifests for a great part in outer behaviour. Maybe, just maybe..it's just being yourself and having the balls to open up without any psych.tactics to impress him/her=confidence.
>>797
Nope. Some people are very confident without being very outgoing, and it runs deeper into the way they speak, the body language, etc. This is subconsciously read by the people they speak to. It also slightly influences the way they think and interact in a conversation.
Having "psych. tactics" isn't incompatible with confidence, although confidence makes them less useful. But you're a bit right, too; it's in a way being yourself and having the balls to stand for what you are.
If it runs into the way they speak and their body language, then that is EXACTLY what is meant by manifesting in outward behaviour.
800 GET
I've resigned myself to being single because I'm not very healthy, mentally or physically. If I actually managed to get a relationship with someone, I would end up hurting them.
All the same, I always feel so irate and jealous when I see my friends with someone.
I want to die.
I am in the 4th week of summer school and I can't force myself to give up. I came into college thinking life for me would be better, turns out it is only worse. I find it more difficult to just even maintain contact with a girl, let alone get to know one. I checked my phone and I only have 2 numbers that are girls out of the 25 in it. Mentally I have given up, I know that I will be single my whole life. My heart still has some fight left it in, and I know I can't stop it but I certainly don't have to listen to it.
My heart has fallen for this one girl in my class, and I am counting down the days until classes is over so I can just forget about her. She is smart, outgoing, very social and talkative, beautiful, basically everything I am not. And she is very nice, one of the kindest person I have ever met. I think the only reason I fell for her is because she was the only person in a long time who has come up to me on a consistent basis and ask how my day has been. I think the only reason I like her is because she is the only girl who gives me any sort of attention.
orz why must you torture me?
I have probably posted this before.
All of your ancestors have not been single. The odds are in your favour, all of us.
>>804 arranged marriages plus it was so much easier in the day
>>803
I just checked, I have 19 girls in my phone (excluding family) on about 50 contacts.
Wow, I'm just surprised by that score.
788 here
>>794
My first date in my entire life was at 20, but I met my final choice when I was 21, so yeah, 21 years of being single, bleh.
>>796
EXACTLY what I was saying. Smart.
>>795
Not that I want to get too much into it, but when I say "when you aren't looking", my experience (and many others) is that love happens (sometimes) when you least expect it. Obviously keep trying, but sometimes it happens when you aren't trying as much.
I really don't want to be condescending, I sympathize with all of your feelings, but the most important thing you can do is persevere.
A couple of weeks ago I was waiting at a bus stop. I was not in such a great mood following uni that day. There was a guy walking towards me, and I'm looking past him to see if the bus is coming. As he comes nearer, I change my focus on to him, and I catch him with a rather silly small smile on his face. Grumpy that my personal space would soon be invaded, I turn the other direction and take no further notice at him. All the while I was thinking, "Don't sit down here, don't sit down here." Of course, he sat down next to me. Minutes pass, and the bus comes. At the ticket checking, I'm having trouble getting my purse out, and rather than hold up the line I let people pass. When I finally dig out my ticket, I reach to swipe the card at the same time as someone else. I turn around, and it's the guy with the small silly smile. I couldn't help but return the smile as he politely let me on first. It was then for a moment that my heart skipped a beat. It was strange, because I'm not one to get all deluded. I mean, I'm not naive and inexperienced as to go all lovey dovey over a small act. Normally, I wouldn't think twice if a guy offered me his seat. Add to the fact that he wasn't particularly physically attractive.
Anyway, a couple of days ago when I accompanied my friend to print stuff at the library, I bumped into him again. My friend and I were probably talking obnoxiously loud because he turned slightly towards my direction. I immediately recognised that small weird smile of his, and continued working at my computer in silence. All the while I was looking at him, whilst pretending to look at my screen. I had this sudden urge and confidence to give him my number (I never give out my number??). My gut was actually telling me that it would be a good idea. I folded though, thinking logically about the situation, and how weird I would come across. I left soon after, but after that second encounter I can't get him out of my head.
Thanks for listening.
maybe he's a stalker.. be careful. but hey.. it's worth a try.
>>806
Count yourself lucky, I have 5, 1 I could possibly date.
>>810
Well, to be honest, there are three or so I would gladly date (two of them taken, so no way), two that would date me but I don't want to, and one I'd marry on the spot and make her nine kids. But that's so not going to happen, it's depressing.
Every morning, I have this girl in my dreams. She doesn't resemble anyone I know at all. Every time I drift off to dreamland, I end up seeing her. We go and have fun. I treat her to some ice cream; we go to the bookstore and glance over all different types of books. I hold her; she feels warm and soft. She's affectionate and trusting. Her pouty smile, her beautiful eyes, and delicate skin, all bundled up in my arms. Then I open my eyes, and see her staring back at me for less than a second. Then it hits me. It was all a dream. I stay in my bed for a few minutes, contemplating the fact that she isn't real. I get a dreaded feeling that I will be lonely all my life, because I will never get her. This has been my life for the past 2 months. I hate my life, 4-ch.
>>814
A small kindness lands you in the dreaded friend zone... FOREVER
I just want a friend with benefits.
I don't care, i'm not desperate to get gals, they flock all over me.
That friend zone is bullshit, that doesn't apply to everything, a mere overhyped theory.
So the girl I love and am trying to clumsily and slowly seduce is all friendly towards a friend of mine she met at parties. In the course of a week (yeah we party a lot) she looks like very close to him. I just noticed she added him on Facebook, while she told me she always waited for people to add her. It's either that or he added her, which would be as bad because she semi-hid her profile, so that would mean he has searched for her and added her - probably meaning he's interested too given the circumstances. If they end up together it would be the second friend of mine she'd be dating.
I hate my life right now.
>>819 looks like she's the straight forward kind of girl. may be u gotta be more assertive. if you go too slow, she might think you are not interested in her.
>>820
She knows it. I told her before. She was interested in that other friend at that time. Now I'm trying to act somehow indifferent and increase my "value", because I can't do any direct flirting 'cause she'd see it coming. I'm conscious it's probably useless. If she does end up with that second friend I guess I'm going to have to sever any contact for a few. I don't know.
I'm really not sure how to react.
Every potential relationship I've ever had has failed due to my passivity. They all have either ended in the girl thinking (1) I'm gay and have no interest in her, or (2) going far too slow until she got fed up with it. More recently, a girl has been taunting me with other guys. According to all of her friends, she's trying to see how I react. Well, naturally, I react like I always do and simply withdraw from said situation.
I'm the type a guy who meets a girl, likes her, and then gives up when the going gets serious. I question sometimes whether I'm depressed, apathetic, or just a huge pussy.
>>More recently, a girl has been taunting me with other guys. According to all of her friends, she's trying to see how I react. Well, naturally, I react like I always do and simply withdraw from said situation.
Call her out on that shit, don't take it lying down. Trust me, I know how you feel; one of my ex girlfriends did that to me after she left me for another person.
Speaking of which, I'm kinda at a weird point. Every relationship I've ever been in ended in the person cheating on me/leaving me for another person... and I am still hurt by one of those relationships a year ago. Also, I'm in an area where there are very very few girls my type. I mean, I can hook up with random people, but none of them are people I probably would be able to connect with on a relationship level...
...However, at the same time, I do miss the feeling of being in love, of yearning for someone, of loving someone and being truly loved in return. I haven't been in a relationship in a year, and I haven't been truly in love and loved in return in 4 years. However, I'm going to wait until school starts back in August to worry about it, I guess...
Why bother? If I jerk off, she won't bother me nearly as much. Deep down I don't actually enjoy her company apart from touching. I have financial issues right now, and I'm trying to get back into school. Seriously, my days of partying and chasing after girls ended when I turned 20.
I love her with all my heart and don't expect much in return. It's hard to see her going to other guys, though. I would go and find me another girl, but I can't be serious about it.
I wish I didn't know a love so great and I could keep things simple and carefree.
I'm tired of being alone. Waking up, knowing I'm just going to be grinding the day away by myself; fuck that. I'm sick of that.
I never got along with anybody in highschool, it was nothing short of a miracle that I found a girl I liked my senior year. Damn shame she wasn't interested in me though, and now about a year later we're not on speaking terms.
All the older people in my life told me when I was in college, more opportunities would arise for me. While it's true I've met some pretty cool people, I've only met one girl that I've been romantically attracted to, and she ended up going out with one of my friends. I'm probably only going to be in college for about another two years or so, and I sincerely doubt my situation will ever change.
Love is a lie.
I find it funny that all of my friends approach me for relationship advice. With my success rate, I feel like a truck driver who was ask how to perform open heart surgery. Eh, thats life I guess.
i got this crush in class, she and I seem to be getting along pretty well, but the case is.. She has a boyfriend, and now i think im starting to fall for her.. gah what should i do?
I just found out that the guy I had been crushing hard on for the past year is a slut and a dishonest person. In my defense, I had an inkling that he was a bit of a bad boy, but he was very discreet about those kind of activities in front of me. I'm kind of glad actually, because although we parted ways a couple of months ago, I'd never truly managed to move on. I realise now that I'd been idealising him and this latest discovery has confirmed that for me. It's like all the pieces of the puzzle falling in place. Little suss things I remember about him are beginning to click. I'm just frustrated that I didn't want to trust my gut instinct earlier. I'm usually a very good judge of people, but it's funny how feelings can get in the way. I feel so foolish.
>>829
Well... try to be more clever next time maybe? :)
will we always be single??
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Seems that way kitty. Seems that way.
Don't feel so bad about yourself, you're just a woman after all.
Love is both a lie and irrelevant to life. Girls (and people in general) suck, so I have no qualms about being single for the rest of my life.
I'm not young anymore, but as long as I work hard and continue to be successful, I don't give a flying fuck about getting a girlfriend at least once in my life.
all women are liars and that is why i will never find happiness
! that's why pron is so popular
>>835
for me, they are too demanding not liars....
what a shitty life. girls these days have way over the top standards
I completely agree with 839
Women dont realize that even high standards dont mean that theyll be happy just becuase a man is rich or good looking doesnt mean hes a nice/good guy
It's getting too much for me. Seeing my friend going out with the girl I like, seeing everybody around me finding bliss through their romantic companion, and seeing so many others squander such things as romance for money and status...
It's leaving me bitter. Perhaps a little to bitter to care when things might turn my way for a change. As far as I can tell, the situation will never happen where I'll ever know any such things. Knowing that they have so much, and some just piss it all away because it's the hot thing to do or it'll get them other things they want.
The bitterness has me turning cold. Nobody cares about me being alone. Nobody care about my emotional needs. If that's the case, why do I care about any of the needs of those around me? It doesn't seem as if some omnipotent being will reward any kindness on my part. It isn't as if the favor will for some reason be returned to me.
I may now be unfit for being with another, but only because I have for so long been alone that now I only resent those around me, blinded by a delusion that perhaps they have it better than me or are somehow responsible for my blight.
While I know there are other kindred souls like me out there, for some reason I cannot take solace int this, for when you are alone, it's hard to believe there are others like you.
OMFG PUT ON SOME MASCARA AND JUMP INTO AN ABYSS OF LOVE-DEAD SOULS ALREADY.
>>841 Yeah, i was like that in the beginning. But eventually you destroy that hope completely (no hope=no despair). I just accept that i will be alone and there are no disappointments or no rewards, but it's much nicer here then i was a Love Seeking Fool.
Hope you find "peace".
>>842
I lost my mascara, can I borrow yours?
I have no problem with being alone. However, being alone is fine as long as you have people to hang out with in your spare time. If not a significant other, you might as well have some very good friends who you can spend time with. I really wouldn't know what I would do if I didn't have the friends I have.
However, I have noticed that they will not always be there for more. Slowly they too will find girlfriends or boyfriends to be with or even fiancees in some cases. Because I'm in the midst of this entire process happening, I become more worried about my own future relationships with girls. My 24th birthday just passed and I've never kissed a girl before. I suppose I'll need another 24 years to get a serious girlfriend. Two of the girls that I've ever considered going out with already have boyfriends and are too heavily marriage oriented. For whatever reason, they'll probably end up marrying their current boyfriends since they're too insecure that they can find a better match. I'm not saying their boyfriends are terrible people, but they're kind of jerks in comparison to me. But most people generally are. Perhaps my own sense of morality and ethics has prevented me from entering a relationship. I just think that taking advantage of girls who are drunk or emotionally vulnerable is wrong. But apparently, it works for a lot of people and girls don't seem to mind that too much.
i know no nice cool cute girls. does fashion sense give a clue to a girls personality? who do i go for. Im talking about really interesting high caliber types
YOU JUST REACHED A NEW LOW BY ASKING A WOMAN TO BORROW HER MAKEUP.
BTW, THE ANSWER IS NO.
>>845
Seeing your friends with significant others sure does suck.
Just like a good vacuum cleaner.