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NEET/Hikikomori Thread (4)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2020-09-12 03:22 ID:KMbhUmtI

This thread is for hikikomori and NEETs to discuss personal issues regarding the NEET lifestyle.

NEET (Not In Education Employment Or Training)

The Japanese Ministry of Health, defines hikikomori as people who refuse to leave their parents' house, do not work or go to school and isolate themselves away from society and family in a single room for a period of 6 months or more.

If you are not a NEET or hikikomori don't post in this thread.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2020-09-22 14:17 ID:soZC1zSF

penis

3 Name: Anonymous : 2020-10-07 23:49 ID:HEmGSXfy

What if I am a NEET hikkikomori and I don't have any problems?
It keeps me away from people, the government's autism bux are enough to keep me well-supplied with instant ramen and Calpis. I basically get to sleep when I want, read when I want, watch anime when I want, and program when I want, and normalfags have to pay for it or they get arrested. This is comfort supreme.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2020-10-08 05:13 ID:KMbhUmtI

>>3

Then you're just lazy.

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I have a plan to stop being a NEET (20)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-06 00:25 ID:457ISoe1

I'm a recovering hikikomori. About which, let's just say I was born into a dysfunctional family.

I'm currently a NEET, I've been one since I last dropped out of highschool years ago, and I've never really worked, except for something very informal months ago and which only lasted a couple of days, because I messed it up.

I have a plan to socially recover and sustainably stop being a NEET. Not that I think one "should" work, I'm critical of work, but I do think it can be advantageous to do so.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-15 08:51 ID:XwP1QyX8

>>9
Any tips on staying sane?

12 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-14 02:31 ID:UWW3fMk1

Best of luck, trying to get out of NEETdom myself right now. Fucking sucks but I have to do it.

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14 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-26 06:09 ID:O17/tC35

>>10
At 13 I wanted to stay at home and not go to school any more so that's what I did. Both my parents worked so everyday I pretended to go to school then come back home once they've left. When I couldn't do that I'd take my bike and ride around the huge park near my house and explore or if I had some money I'd spend it playing some street fighter and house of the dead. Some days when it was nice outside I would catch a train to somewhere I've never been to and explore on my skateboard until it was time to go home.

When my parents found out what I was doing it was too late and I had to repeat the year which I sure as fuck wasn't going to do. So I just stayed home again. After a while when my parents found out again the school sent some counsellor for a chat. I don't really remember what was said because I zoned out through the whole thing but basically my parents said they didn't know what to do with me. Eventually I was kicked out of school and I've been at home doing whatever I feel like ever since.

>>11
What do you mean by this exactly?

15 Name: J : 2017-10-26 09:54 ID:Y/F03mnQ

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16 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-26 15:36 ID:dJRzryUD

>>15

>have to leave the house for a trip
>actually having a job in the first place to be able to "earn more"

Spammer really knows his audience.

17 Name: Anonymous : 2018-11-30 01:07 ID:FGIkqeQq

>>14
I enjoyed your story. Brings back some memories of my own.

18 Name: Anonymous : 2020-07-28 04:15 ID:PZFsO7TH

>>3

>My plan is to be an oversocialized cringie that takes on twice the amount I'm potentially prepared for
>Adopting the working and socializing habits of typies will bode well for me, a self-described NEET with a lower threshold of interaction and experience with the outside world than (((polite society))) deems acceptable

<ah, the temerity of youth.
FTFY.

Good luck with that, by the way. You're obviously in a better position than half the rest of us if you are in any position soever to pooh-pooh a perfectly good job offering, assuming you are not just another normie-by-day/NEET-LARPer by night (a rather charitable assumption nowadays).

19 Name: Anonymous : 2020-09-05 06:32 ID:ty05okJZ

I haven't worked since March and I really don't want to get another job but I will have to soon.

20 Name: Anonymous : 2020-09-11 08:51 ID:auK2W3C+

>>19

I have been a NEET for 6 years at this point i am sick of it after codvid ends whenever the fuck that is i plan to return to society again and find a job.

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acne medication (19)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-02 04:43 ID:Dhqd/BDQ

I have acne problems and acne scars, I have used several medication and it removes the acne temp. but... it cannot remove the acne scars.. I was wondering if there are any medication to remove the acne and scars permentanly

10 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-23 21:50 ID:Heaven

Saturated fat.... I'm fucking 30 years old, and after I eat some shit junk food, I still get pimples.

Saturated fat, don't go near it.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-25 21:13 ID:IkxdnvZR

There is a lot of stuff in people's diets that might cause breakout depending on the person...

Pro-Activ...I used that stuff for months and nothing happened. I used something my friend gave me and within weeks I was clear and clean...

12 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-26 01:25 ID:Heaven

Haha, lucky bastards. I spent all this money on all this crap and nothing worked for me. Digestive medicine included. Oh useless doctors, useless dermatologists out for money.

Still have it.

13 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-27 08:42 ID:2JL6DCIY

>>12

Are you young? If everything else has failed you, growing older might just be your cure.

14 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-27 16:03 ID:Heaven

According to everyone else, yeah, I'm young. Took bloody isotretinoin for months, turned out completely useless.

15 Name: Newoz : 2007-02-04 01:17 ID:Heaven

I used, and still do, benzolium peroxide.
It sure works, but ocassionaly my skin gets too dry and I have to stop. This happens when I combine it with an acid soap with sulfur(whose only purpose of existance is to clean my face, and then get it dry).

What type of skin moisturiser do you suggest/recommend? Any specific soap or cream?

16 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-13 07:30 ID:/0nBmiEs

i think the only way to prevent new pimples is to see a dermatologist and get a prescription. (pills). I would not wash my face for 3 days and i didnt get a pimple. fOR existing acne you should use proactive because it is cheap.. it is very good to smooth the face and to get rid of brown spots after poppping a zit. to see results faster, you should do chemical peels, salycilic to be exact.

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18 Name: Anonymous : 2018-01-05 14:16 ID:QlwznoYQ

>>10
you are 41 now

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Suffering from dirty strong supersonic attacks (6)

1 Name: suffering : 2019-07-07 00:40 ID:k4VpSgrK

I'm suffering from dirty strong supersonic attacks !! Supersonic terrorisms !!

The supersonic attacker is also in Yamaguchi city.

2 Name: kusohead : 2019-07-07 11:14 ID:Heaven

ultraman

3 Name: Anonymous : 2019-07-12 17:34 ID:Fk+ljArD

3GET

4 Name: Anonymous : 2019-08-20 00:35 ID:fgVijRt7

Attack this! shits diaper

5 Name: Anonymous : 2019-08-23 00:39 ID:qFVBCHsk

>>4
clean it up mom!

6 Name: Anonymous : 2020-07-27 21:56 ID:4KyuV9k7

electromagnetic waves guy is better

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On pubic hair. (23)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-04-19 14:39 ID:sQLWR0ni

How much do you love pubic hair? (Whether yours, or your partner's, or someone else's.)

I've been wondering quite a bit. Seems that these days people cherish a well-trimmed section more than a natural one. Personally, I prefer untrimmed girls. It feels more... well, real, and mature/adult. Shaved parts leave me feeling all weird inside.

Must explain why I love Japanese women -- probably because the majority of their films have their women in unshaved form.

I've also heard that in Korea, women are (sort of) culturally required to maintain their pubic hair. It's a sign of fertility, or something like that. Anyone know anything (or more) about this? I'd appreciate if you could enlighten me.

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15 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-12 14:01 ID:bDrxvoEW

dicks out for Harambe

16 Name: Anonymous : 2018-10-13 20:57 ID:4XXdyYXK

I have hairs growing on my balls. It's a pain to trim them and obviously impossible to shave. Is this just shit genes or is this a more common occurrence?

17 Name: Anonymous : 2019-02-06 18:17 ID:Heaven

>>16
I'm pretty sure it's a common occurrence.

18 Name: mara : 2019-11-22 00:21 ID:YlEA2JUl

I leave my pubes alone until I start getting major bush, then I trim it back around the labia because it can be annoying. I still like to have a decent amount on the pubic mound. Shaving causes a lot of irritation for me, I avoid it now.

On sexual partners, I don't care much unless it's so long that I end up with their pubes flossing my teeth. Yuck. A slight trim is preferable for oral.

Adult humans are meant to have pubic hair, it's part of life. shrug

19 Name: Anonymous : 2019-11-25 03:23 ID:cArQNuWI

You are a normalshit. Please leave.

20 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-06 22:33 ID:BgxY0rUu

Just use Nair bro

21 Name: Anonymous : 2020-01-23 07:29 ID:rtpfsF+5

I have hair directly on my dick. Much shorter than other pubic hair but it stops around the foreskin. Get pwned hairlets.

22 Name: Anonymous : 2020-07-27 21:53 ID:v6aY3kqh

pubes are heinously anus

23 Name: Anonymous : 2020-09-24 19:38 ID:Heaven

I shave but I don't like body hair in general. I used to shave my arms and legs too but after a while I stopped and thought "Damn most women have to do this their whole life"

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anarchy (5)

1 Name: anonymous : 2007-05-11 19:33 ID:sKIlOMVE

I'm just an anarchist and....forgot the question...I'm just going to keep the thread up just in case...

2 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-11 20:04 ID:Heaven

answer: stick it in the man

3 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-12 20:06 ID:Heaven

I like capitalism

4 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-13 15:13 ID:ioKdrbQo

dicks out for Harambe

5 Name: Anonymous : 2020-07-16 09:54 ID:mTJc0hPw

anarchism is heinously anus

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I feel like i deserve nothing of what ive achieved (6)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2020-02-05 12:50 ID:fLuWjIDX

Hi there, anons.
Have you ever felt like this?
I mean, ive made it to get to the college with a schoolarship, i dont have any problem with my parents and a decent romance history. But i cant help thinking like i dont deserve anything of that because, i dont know, "A lazy idiot like me is not worth of a schoolarship, or parents love, you should learn how tough the life is".

How to deal with this? Have you ever felt like that?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2020-02-06 10:21 ID:GpSiOWRx

Nobody deserves anything. In the long term, shit just happens because of processes too complex for any lone human to understand.

This goes both ways. You don't deserve to have an easy life or a tough one. You don't deserve to be happy or to suffer. If it happens, it happens.

The only thing any of us can do is make choices that we think will lead to a positive outcome. But when something happens, good or bad, blind luck is just as responsible for that outcome as our actions are. And so there's no point in feeling guilty that blind luck made your life a good one, for now.

Anyone who believes they built their own good life through their actions alone, and not an ounce of chance, is deluded. Anyone who feels guilty that their good life fell into their lap is just the flip side of their same coin.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2020-03-22 23:15 ID:GpSiOWRx

Not saying this in a malicious way, but I wonder how >>1's college scholarship and decent romance history are faring now.

Life comes at you fast. I think this reinforces my point in >>2.

(hopefully I have the same ID or I'll look stupid)

4 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-26 07:56 ID:3uP4EisF

Sounds like impostor syndrome. People who fall on a certain range on the Dunning-Kruger chart tend to get it. I'll leave you to figure out which part.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2020-05-17 19:35 ID:QwFWc2fq

I have achieved nothing and I deserve everything.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2020-05-18 15:42 ID:+NkbD3xY

>>5
same

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I'm stupid, so I want to make a smarter version of myself (4)

1 Name: Huge Dumbass!!BaKBRBfS : 2020-04-23 19:20 ID:1WBHIGwV

I've decided that I'm going to make something that will replace me. Please help.

I'm almost 30, I've accomplished nothing, living with my parents, barely made it out of highschool, generally a failure. No one would mind if I was dead. I have some basic electronics knowledge and was working as a repair technician until the pandemic hit. There were so many things I wanted to do with my life, and it doesn't look like I'll ever achieve any of them. It's completely hopeless for me, so I'm sitting down here to study.

As far as I know, there isn't anything out there yet to replace a person, so the only thing I can do is study until I can make it myself. Went on the MIT website to see what subjects they think I need to know to be an engineer, and engineering sounds like it might let me do this. Maybe? I don't know. Point is that I'm going to follow
http://catalog.mit.edu/degree-charts/electrical-science-engineering-course-6-1/
and try to do everything in here. Right now I've got the calculus textbook off their opencourseware thing because that looks like the first step. I want to get done a section a day, and that'll put me at being done in a little over two weeks. If I keep that pace up, I might be done in a year with all the knowledge I need to be an electronic brain scientist. Then I just need to make a brain and a body, easy peasy.
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2 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-26 02:14 ID:ltuh1owj

if u learn to be an electric brain scientist on your own, i think you'll probably be able to get a good job or at least go back to school to get a good job. otherwise, i think that your trajectory is good, if you keep up the pace

3 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-26 08:00 ID:qgqllJfX

4 Name: Huge Dumbass!!BaKBRBfS : 2020-04-29 03:18 ID:1WBHIGwV

Reporting in. I'm moving at about half the speed I wanted to, but I'm still moving. Practice problems are really good for learning, but I'm so slow with them that they eat up most of the time I'm spending. When this is done, I'd kind of like to just sit back for a few days and watch whatever I made do its thing. Whatever its thing is. I'm fine with ending up a janitor or something if I can at least do this.

Thanks for the books! Having more will be good. I never really understood why textbooks were important during school, but they mean a lot more now that I'm not looking at the ones from back then. I still don't understand why the elementary/high school math textbooks were so difficult to look at compared to one for guys who were accepted into MIT.

I really want to have made something nice before I die. If it can look at me and tell me I was okay, I accomplished something worthwhile, that's all I can really ask for.

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My father has an avoidant personality (4)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-21 02:30 ID:IgpPq+4A

He dislikes fighting so much that he sometimes foregoes problem-solving altogether.

Calling him names won't work because he's mostly chill or pacifist. No appeals to his pride seem to work.

He does get angry sometimes, but manifests it in indirect ways, like he's repressing it. He gets sad and drinks.

When he's drunk he shows anger, but it is difficult to talk reason to him them.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-23 13:35 ID:cu6gMS2P

Just typed us both, hes an ESFP and Im an INTP

3 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-24 00:00 ID:89y6Y3oI

Does this cause any problems for you?

4 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-26 07:54 ID:ZdMOVJ9f

You can't make people who don't care care.

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death is the only hope (65)

1 Name: warez otoko : 2007-03-21 11:32 ID:KJnzZezY

I can't take it anymore. I'm so alone, I have no friends, girls don't even look at me. Everybody is having fun, they are full of love, all except me.
I'm a complete failure, 10 years of isolation, I barely finished high school, dropped out of university, and found a stoopid job anyone could do.
There's no way out, I have no idea how people become friends with each other, how they find love. Oh wait, once in 26 years I actually found that.. once in 26.. that means I have to wait another 26 to stumble on a person who likes me, and I'll be old already..
I tried to tell them.. I told them I was alone.. but no one understands.. they think it's some stoopid temporary loneliness.. they are used to have all they want, to find new friends and lovers the same way you download new games from the internet... how could they understand what it means to have no friends, no company, no woman around for the most part of ur life, and not knowing how to find them.
Everybody has a family, friends, a girl, everybody is loved... but me, and I don't know how to get out of this... once you lose all social connections, it's done. It isn't necessary to be a hikki, it just happens, you lose all childhood friends, and zzap you're alone for life.
What I have done to deserve this.

56 Name: Anonymous : 2018-02-08 07:57 ID:0CBkwNL9

I feel the same way as OP. There's some useful advice in this thread. I'm going to work on improving myself and trying to strike up convos with people. Thanks

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58 Name: Anonymous : 2018-04-16 15:10 ID:Heaven

>>54
Was it good?

59 Name: Anonymous : 2018-10-05 21:22 ID:nAqwikSB

lmao this thread was made in 2007

I wonder how old the OP is now, are you still alive?

I'm 27 myself and have been alone my whole life and a hikikomori since 12.
What you gotta do OP is get over that feeling and learn to find happiness in solitary life.
You'll realize that it's better to be "alone" that constantly around others.
You don't need others for happiness, just find things in life that bring you happiness and joy.

60 Name: Anonymous : 2019-01-21 04:49 ID:Heaven

I really just browsed here out of curiosity. I actually might have read this very thread when I was in high school, and forgot about it because it's uncomfortable to hear about people feeling they should just give up on life. These days I can understand how OP is feeling, getting older and feeling like you're just wasting away your life is tough, and feeling like you could be having a more fulfilling social life. I don't get so choked up over a lack of a social life, too much, I have plenty of friends online. It doesn't bother me too much I don't have any friends irl, except one I hadn't hung out in person with in over a year. Crippling social anxiety is a bitch, though. Being so terrified in public that it's exhausting everytime is no fun.
I'm a transwoman and have been struggling hard through my adult life. Only the past 3 years I've been full time. I was laid off work for that and it's hard for me to get myself back on my feet, because I've always dealt with anxiety, worried people just see me as a timid piece of garbage, and now worried they see me as a freak. Deep down I know I'm not a bad looking person and I'm good at socializing casually, at least once I'm comfortable with someone. Even though I know this, it's hard for me to keep myself convinced. I'm only going to cause myself more regret in the future, nothing should be stopping me from progress.
It's really never too late to realize these toxic mindsets are nothing but toxic, and they do nothing but bog you down from at least being proud of the hobbies and so on you do enjoy, even if your life isn't exactly ideal. You don't need to have a great job, be a social butterfly, or fit the ideal beauty standards! Most people I become friends with online don't fit into any of those, but they are still great people I enjoy the company of, with their own unique personalities/experiences. You should want to improve yourself and your life, but don't get bogged down by what you don't have yet, or for not meeting your goals sooner! It's hard to stay positive in this world, and you never really be able to always stay positive. All any of us can do is try, and no one is truly alone on this.

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61 Name: Anonymous : 2019-02-06 18:54 ID:Heaven

The idea that there are new human in the same exact position as OP was more than 10 years ago is frightening. The people themselves aren't scary, but the fact that this situation has been constantly recurring for people all over the world without any headway is what is frightening.

And yeah, I think the advise regarding meet-ups with people for like-minded hobbies is probably the best advise. That way, you know that everyone in your vicinity is there for the same reason you are. For example, if you get into WarHammer 40K, once you get your army together you can find a table and wait for someone else who is also looking for a match.

62 Name: Anonymous : 2019-06-16 10:17 ID:M2KNOX3B

OP is literally me but 10 years in the past

10 years have passed but nothing has changed for people like us there's not place for us in this world

63 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-07 09:12 ID:85X1wMVA

>>62
You're right.

64 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-09 08:06 ID:/zKTI9OI

>>62
I've been NEET for over 11 years. KV, no friends, no hope in this world.

65 Name: Anonymous : 2020-04-23 13:38 ID:rvMsmKgQ

even when there is no hope
still there shall be hope

even when there is no solution
still there shall be solution

get out of relative thinking and reach for the absolute

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