I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...
Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.
we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away ＿|￣|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??
Eiga Otoko! i beleive you can do it!
althought i dont know why CHICKS DIG STEYR AUGs can help you score. anyway.. movie man (eiga otoko) if you really love her that much, i thin you should all by means confess to her. even if you do get rejected its not like its the end of the world and there are heaps of other girls waiting for ya! good luck for everything! hope next time you talk to her you have enough courage to tell her how you feel!
>>15
I disagree. What's with this confessing love bull crap. Unless the guy plans on going to Japan, paying all kinds of crazy money, and has a chance at actually entering the most holy of holies, then I say he takes up chasing skirt on his home turf. I mean, if he's still talking to the girl he could say "Hey man, I think you're cute. if you come to australia lemme hook up with you."
Otherwise he should seriously invest in buying a Steyr AUG. I KNOW you can buy them in Australia because I know a guy there and he has an AUG-Z with rails and scopes and shit. It's black too and hella cool. He gets all kinds of girls. Plus he has a Ford Falcon, fire engine red.
Benson, I don't know you but you are like the brother I never wanted. Do you really want to pine over some girl you'll never meet or do you want to score? Seriously, if all else fails go to New Zealand. I hear women over there are just crazy for Australianese.
What could it hurt?
btw everyone... although i live in australia but i'm actualy chinese ~"~ i dont know why >>17 would think >>15 is me >"< however after reading your posts... I decided to try and forget this girl. >>16 does have a point, am i really planning go to and spend that money just to see her?? i mean even if she does accept it what next?? we cant even see each other but only hear voices. unless she has a webcam but still you still cant do much. maybe i will just remain good friends with her....＿|￣|○" But Thanks everyone for listning to my story, appreciate it! prehaps i will met someone same as her in australia one day!
Yeah dude, that's probably the best way to go. And hey, I didn't know you were chinese, but you're still cool in my book. There are plenty of young lasses traipsing around Australia, some of them even blond.
And hey, use that money you were GOING to spend to go to Japan and get yourself that Steyr AUG!
hahaha i noticed people didn't know i was chinese lol but stil thanks very much for the advice! maybe i will go look for that SteyR AUG lol! xD
>>18
That's because the IDs in >>11-13,15,18,20 are all 42XejFb+
Next time you're doing JISAKU JIEN in the dark of night, be sure to sage your post.
ahh apparently i just asked this girl out cos shes going to return some stuff she borrowed from me and i plan to take her to see fireworks on night, any suggestions wat i should do?!
btw i think >>15 might be a friend cos my friend was on my computer and he properly read the whole post >"<
eehh can soemone please help!! the girl messaged me back and asked "where do you want to go? what are we gonna do?" any suggestions what i should say?!! >"<
If this is the Japanese girl that you are getting over you tell her to go blow dirt. You're treating yourself to a Steyr AUG and don't need her mucking it all up.
If this is a new girl, Take her to an Italian restaurant(CLASSY restaurant). And then take her for ice cream afterward.
Trust me.
yeah this is a new girl!~ oh i see thanks!! i see what i can do! ^^ hope it works!
Now Benson...don't screw this up. I forgot to mention in >>24 some things.
Ok first of all, dress up a little bit. Not like you are going to a funeral but some slacks and a collar shirt(MAYBE a tie...depends) Whatever, just try to look kempt and presentable.
When you get to the place, pull her seat for her. AVOID SMALL TALK. Just enjoy the moment. Comment on the food, the atmosphere. BE HONEST AND GENUINE. Do not bullshit this girl, benson. If there is a moment of silence. GO WITH IT. If she wants to say something, she'll say it. EYE CONTACT IS IMPORTANT. Smile too. Nothing too toothy or fake.
If you are of age, order some wine. GOOD WINE. Like I said this should be a Classy Italian restaurant. Normally I don't like Italians or Italian food, but it is a good date food. It's rich, filling, and there is variety. Also, BE NICE TO THE WAITER. I don't care if he's so fruity his last name is Grape. BE NICE TO HIM. Women pick up on that. It's like if you are all nice to her, but an ass to someone else she'll think you are fake.(Hopefully you're a nice enough chap anyways..but still)
Also, Order for her. That's right ORDER FOR HER. Here is the classy way to do it.
Ask her what she wants before the waiter comes. Then when it's time to order say "The lady here will have XXXXX" Smile while you do it. Then after dinner, take her for ice cream. GOOD ice cream. Trust me.
Whatever, man. I hope you use this as a guide. Don't talk to her like you are doing an interview. AVOID POLITICS. AVOID TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE YOU BOTH KNOW. AVOID SWEARING. DO GLANCE AT HER BOOBS AND THEN LOOK INTO HER EYES AND SMILE. COMPLIMENT HER ON HER SMELL BUT DON'T BE CREEPY. COMPLIMENT HER ON HER HAIR.
Also when you get done with the date. DO NOT EXPECT A KISS. Give her a hug. If she does kiss you it might be a peck on the cheek, but otherwise give her a hug. Don't touch her ass or anything.
Also, DO NOT SPEND MORE THAN 50 DOLLARS US ON HER. DON'T.
But otherwise, be yourself. Save talk of Steyr AUGs for the third or fourth date. Then(and you ARE getting one aren't you?) take her shooting. Tell her how cute she looks holding a Steyr AUG. Take pictures of her. Post them here.
YOU KNOW NOW WHAT YOU MUST DO, BENSON. DON'T SCREW IT UP!
wow! thanks alot! but i dont think shes intrested in a Steyr AUG lol! Thanks for all that ^^
>>26 is a recipe for her having an allergy attack because you ordered something she didn't know what it was and was deathly allergic to, resulting in her brother coming to kill you
you might want to get the Steyr AUG beforehand just in case
hmm apparently she suddenly offline when i was talking to her on msn today~"~ she cant go out on night so might go out during day though... properly just ask her out for lunch or a movie i think ＿|￣|○" what do you guys think?
Movies are lame for first dates. She can see a damn movie on her own time.
Lunch is good, take her somewhere outdoorsy. Like a patio cafe or something.
>>28
doesn't know what he's talking about. Make sure she wants what she wants and THEN order for her. That way if she dies it is her own damn fault.
oohh okk! thanks for that ^^
it seems she hasn't replied me... maybe she got dissapointed that i didn't know where to go ＿|￣|○" she was only planning to return something she borrowed from me so really wasn't that big, but thanks alot for all that! maybe i can use it in the future ^^
I still cant get the jap girl out of my head, and stil waiting....＿|￣|○"
Still no news from her?
does the jap girl know ur chinese XD
yeah she knows I'm chinese, I am so hopeless when it comes to girls ＿|￣|○"
Hey I was lurking around and cool I see you hey sup just came from the Densha Otoko thread eh? everyone ditched me there =P
wow sorry for double posting but I can't help but feel that this is like mini densha otoko remake XD
go you w00t XD but ya sigh I know how life can be a well you know...
(sorry for adding this in here where it doesn't belong but ya... hope you don't mind benson hehe ya internet love don' trust it, 9 out of 10 times it doesn't work out even if it does, the chance of seeing the person is slim as for the current one you are going for ya like what the other dude said don't spend too much or she might just start milking you, you can spend more later on but don't start heavily spending from start basically work your way up.)
lol just like Densha＿|￣|○
hahaha, good to see you here xD>>36 well when i talk to her, i only spend the night talking cos its the only time we can talk. theres so many densha alike in this thead, maybe this is what this thead does lol, stil waiting...＿|￣|○
Benson, you are doing it wrong. Stop fooling around and buy that Steyr AUG
Hmmm Gun Otaku trying to date online girl wee for guitar otoko remix XD
(btw what do you type to get the ">>38" in blue font thing
well.... I guess it depends on what you are looking for I used to online date someone before.
I met that person off RO(Ragnarok Online XD) it was pretty
good for a year, since at that time I was too busy to actually
go out and stuff. The online relationship allowed me to get
the comfort and company I needed without going to too much
trouble. But the thing was I found out she lived 9 blocks from
where I am (ya its a small world sometimes) anyhow we met at a
dance after and it turned out okish but then her dad stepped
in... but bah why am I ranting... back to you^^.
Basically I guess its what you are looking for in the end.
If you are looking for a long steady relationship with cuddles
and what not, then online is probably not the way to go.
Because its really hard to meet someone offline,
and Benson cheer up I'm chinese too^^ not all hope is lost XD
(got search Yellow Fever on youtube.com
www.youtube.com/watch?v=iIIoc8R26iM) It has a point in the end watch it.
=P
W T F?! Did...did you just call me an "otaku", boy?
I don't normally help chinese people(there are only two that I actually do like..and yes I have known more chinese than I care to)
I'm sitting here...trying to give good advice.
Getting a Steyr AUG is the BEST POSSIBLE ADVICE I can give this man. He's not getting laid because HE DOESN'T HAVE ONE.
You know what...I'll be damned if I help any of you again.....
gun otaku......the nerve.
>>41
best poster on /love/
>> 41
Oooh noooooo I didn't meant you, I meant benson I was refering to a japanese tv show called densha otoko that we both watched before
Sorry for the miscommunication, and if you took it that offensively
My apologizes.
(to be honest though Steyr AUG is good that gun is underrated in even in CS XD and I know alot of SAS used that gun a lot)
Sending my wish
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* *I'm personally really pissed that he just forgot about the japanese girl like that. Money is only a way to realize our dreams. One thing thats important is a feeling. If you just want to fuck, then you can wank or something. But rejecting something that might have been a real feeling is a bad decision (in my opinion). She never acted like a bitch. I had a few girls in my life and I can tell you one thing. It's really damn hard to find one that will understand you completly. If you'll find the one that you can talk with for the whole night, it might be the love of your life. Someday you'll be old. Your wife will be old too. She won't be as cute as in the past, but you'll still enjoy your life together because you'll be like two parts of the same apple. I would never fuck a girl that would fell for my Rifle. This kind of girls is so called FANTA (Fuck And Never Touch Again). So if you're still reading this thread, just reconsider all this matter. If you'll still think about being with the jap girl as of "I'll be wasting loads of cash to visit her", then just forget about her cuz you're not worth her. Thats what I had to say.
If it comes to "Love" in the sig. it really means nothing. I have a pen pal friend from Japan and she always finishes her mails with Love Yuko. If your friend just started this habbit it may mean that she just starts to feel something. Why the hell all the guys tries to rush it and confess ASAP? Just enjoy the feeling you have, keep it going and maybe one day you won't even have to say it. Just wait for a good moment and when it comes you won't need advice from 4-ch and you'll just tell her what you feel.
PS. It's your life, just do what you want.
well i'm not the kind of guy who just wants to F*** girls, from the previouse post some people been saying "whats the point of having long distance!" i understand what you mean when you said its damn hard to find one that wiil understand you becasue from the girls i have met, she really is different. actuali i never thought it was a waste of money to visit her! i had a thought of doing it one day cos firstly, i can see her, secondly, i want to visit differeny places and thirdly, i really want to go to japan again cos i been there once and i really want to see the cherry blossoms ^^
Personaly i really appreciate everyone on this thread, willing to read my story and help out. some people properly think I'm just an Otaku and hopeless at everything ＿|￣|○ although i dont know anyone here but truly... thank you! I appreciate everyone trying to help me.
well so far I still havn't heard from her yet, but i beleive within 3 weeks i would hear from her soon! I'm gonna wait for another 2-3 months till she replies. Maybe i will write her a letter! I think >>49 is right, i should just wait for a good moment then tell her how i feel, maybe i been rushing things again >"< Well I'll report when something happens and let you guys know!
Everything too me now seems like i just woke up from a dream and back to my lonley anonymouse life.... 1 month waiting felt like 5 months ~~" is it true that if you truely like someone, time seems to be slower without them but is faster when your with them?
yup. It's just the same like when you're having a good fun or you're bored. And it's the same like waiting for the X-mas presents. Have you tried to contact her?
well i did email her once and been waiting ever since!~ somehow i keep thinking the reply will be here soon, maybe i just need to keep waiting.
hey everyone i need SERIOUS help! apparently i found out this girl likes me but i dont like her. shes a family friend and we only got to know each other this year for a bout 2 months. me and her friend pretended that her friend asked me to be her bf and she took it soo serious and i heard she couldn't sleep at all, me and the friend told her today and she got pretty upset i think. well the problem is (this is what i plan) she knows who i like which is the jap girl "aya" and knows the i been waiting for about 2 months now. I'm going to pretend that i talked to the jap girl and confessed and that she liked me also so that shes my gf. if i do that she will give up but i feel so bad doing that >"< any suggestsion anyone???
so first you want a girlfriend but she doesn't want you, then some other girl is into you but you don't want a piece of that?
>>54
um... don't like, lol
You will get fucked and then NO girl will want you
>>54
for starters, stop writing like that
>I'm usualy just a lurker around the board
you're in every damn thread i read, benson_2009.
nominating "benson_200n" as the new anonymous name, where n is some number.
>>59 My suggestion? Don't lie to this girl, tell her the truth so she can move on with her life. Nobody said you have to force yourself to like her. Show some decency by telling her gently that you're not interested in her, or her friend for that matter, and that you're interested in someone else right now. Also, pretending to get asked out by her friend is just low, shame on you both.
Trust me, you'll only make things worse by lying to her.
hmm thats true, its bad to play with peoples feelings... i should know better >"< your right i should just tell her the truth.... lying only makes this worse, thanks for that! ^^
has she replied you yet?
sorry to doulble post but...>>56 you sound like a flamer in most of the theads. lol not very supportive
ya... ID:Heaven from the Flim & TV Densha Otoko thread lol XD
ID:Heaven is what you get when you sage the thread; it's not the same person every time.
I find it really hard to talk to girls now, since i cant really use the internet much nower days and stil waiting for the reply... i begin to think how am i gonna find relationship, somehow my intrest on girls is lost ~"~ i somehow think it has to do with my past since i been tricked a few times...
i think you should just stop worring about it.
seams like its taking a lot out of you.
dont worry eventualy everyone finds their someone,
you just have to accept that this girl might not be that person.
After waiting for 3 months, i dont think i can wait any longer. I'm thinking of moving on with my life, theres realy no point waiting here all day. i dont blame her or anything its just that i cant wait anymore. day by day my feeling just start to loose and eventualy all that feelings are lost now. what do you think i should do now?＿|￣|○
move on, find someone new.
move on, you should have done that ages ago instead of waiting.
hmm i'll try moving on, waiting here really doesn't help at all. thanks for that!
Hi Benson I just read what you said and I found it interesting. However, I don't think you should give up on this Japanese girl if you like her so much. Have you tried sending her another message? Maybe the one you sent her forever ago never got to her? By the way how did you just lose contact with her? Does she not get on skype anymore?
Wishing you the best of luck eiga otoko!
benson...dont listen to >>72. Move on, don't wait, just move on.
>>73
I'm not saying he should just wait I'm just curious more about the situation.
>>74
if you curious about the situation, read the thread, it should be enough.
I mean Come on, I believe 72 is right! If you really like her...did you did anything to get her attention besides waiting for her? Maybe her com crash or something bad happen? No one knows...Until the day you know the reason why she just left not contacting you, you shouldn't be thinking that she out there to play you. If she is, i dont think anyone would be that stupid to spend hours talking to you or something like that.I understand that long distance relationship is definately hard to maintain so ...just for backup..if you really feel that you cant handle such a relation..i suggest you be practical and not get yourself a long-distance relationship
you are asking if benson didnt do enough to get her attention, but what about her not doing enough to keep contact? i mean, if she truly cared about him, even remotely, you would think that she would find someone to write him even a simple email. you are saying he didnt do enough, im saying she didnt do enough and isnt worth it, so he should just move on.
which is why i say if he cant think positive on a long-distance relationship just give up and find something more realistic. But if lets just say that the girl did really get caught up with something or maybe couldnt find a way to get to him? there are lots of possibilities that he has to lay out depending on whether if he's willing or not.
its true she has a life and she probably got caught up, but honestly, a email doesnt shouldnt take more than an hour to write just saying "im going to be busy for awhile" and there is always a way to get to a person. always, especially in today's society.
nothing to see here, move along.....
sage for a nihilist complaining.
oops, wrong thread, har har.
hey everyone! sorry i havn't been on for a while..... well i did send a letter to her 4 weeks ago since she didn't reply on email. its true... i've only waited and didn't take any action, cos i thought if i kept on sending emails she would properly get annoyed. i really thought alot of possibilties like she was too busy with work or something must have happened because it really doesn't seem like her to just suddenly dissappear like that, there must be a reason and she isn't a type of person who would not contact you all of a sudden. i mean why would she talk to me for 6 hours if she was just using me or playing around?? well wat do u guys suggest me to do?? i moved on a bit and she kinda disappeared in my mind for a while. my friends keep saying "give up, she wont ever reply" but somehow i just think that she will reply, or that we will somehow contact each other. its almsot 4 months now... what should i do??
-Eiga Otoko
hello there benson.i have almost the same experience with you.having an online relationship and living long distance.but what seperate us is that i was really glad that i got to meet her in person when i got back home(i'm studying oversea and she's at my home country).we do spend a lot of time e-mailing and talking to each other and even it cost me a lot that time it just don't matter(we can't use skype).it's true that i also did confess to her on the phone,it's really take courage.as for you benson,it's unlucky that you didn't have chance to confess to her.i was thinking that maybe she has waited for you to confess long enough or maybe she just met someone in real life and they started dating.i know that the truth is painful,but there must be reason for her to left you just like that.there is no certainty in online relationship,the thing you need the most is trust.looking at your condition now,it's been really long since you last contacted her.there is possibly chance that she might contact you back,but if it is 4 months already,i think it's to long enough.all that i could say,move on benson-san,there is more waiting for good guy like you.yes,it's a miracle that she will contact you back.but waiting long enough for nothing is not really worth it!!
>>84 hmm i see, well i moved on a bit. I was going to confess to her but didn't expect this to happen, can you guys think of any possiblities that she didn't reply??
-電影男
>>85 umm why cant u just move on and accept the fact that shes not going to reply. it doesnt matter why but if u so want to know then why dont u email her or something asking why. i still dont understand how u can have hope after 4 months. its pretty obvius what happened
That's the problem with you Chinese people; always so shy. Send another e-mail asking if she recieved the previous one, since you haven't gotten a reply yet. No girl should be annoyed by that (unless the girl in question is being a total bitch).
yeah.to think why she didn't reply is not really a good idea..there's to many possibilities for the reason..and the best way to ask her again.move on a bit..don't put hope to much for things that unlikely to happen..i know it's painful..but this is life..
well i did send another email but i doubt i wil get a reply. i moved on a bit and currently i'm going out with this girl this week lol, any suggestions of places i should take her?
-電影男
oh yea I'll try that, i'll report back what happens! date is on this saturday at noon ^^
benson, i would avoid anything fancy and just go for a causal date. since its at noon, a fancy date will not be appropriate. plus fancy dates will make her nervous, and thats bad. rule #1 about first dates: keep her comfortable. when she gets uncomfortable it will end bad for you. and to keep her comfortable you need to be comfortable/relax.
dress comfortable and respectable, slacks, nice shirt, nice shoes, shower, put deodorant on. make sure the car is clean if you are driving.
i would recommend getting some pizza at a nice, causal place. then afterwards take her out to play some mini-golf (depending on weather) or something else like that. this way you can relax, enjoy the weather and each other company, but most importantly both of you will have fun. talk to her, tease her a little and in pure jest like making fun of her swinging style or bet her that she will miss the putt. make sure you smile too when you tease her to show you are playing, make sure you dont come off as a giant asshole. after the game get some ice cream to cool off and take her home.
its important that you be yourself, dont act like she is a potential girlfriend and place her on a pedestal because she is a woman. treat her like a mate, a extremely cute mate, but a mate none the less.
i wish you luck with your date.
thanks alot! i didn't have anything fancy in mind and i think what you say is the best. I'll report back tomorow and tell you guys what happens! ^^
-電影男
well apparently, the girl couldn't come cos of family stuff happening. i mite ask her out again next time and hope that she can go! recently we been smsing and she keeps saying i'm cute and that i'm really nice and easy to talk to, does that mean anything?
-電影男
i guess it means something. try again for another date, and if it falls through again because of her then forgot about her even if she says you are cute and nice; actions speak louder than words.
ok i'll see what happens later! thanks for that!
-電影男
BIG NEWS!!! I FINALY GOT A REPLY FROM THE JAPANESE GIRL!!! 4 months!! i cant beleive it! 4 months and now i finaly got a reply!!! this is wat she wrote:
Hey Benson,
How are you doing? I'm doing fine.
I'm so sorry about I didnt email you for a long time..I have been so busy.
I'll check your web site soon. :)
anyway I have to go now.
see ya,
Aya xx
hmm well not much replied but i knew she was really busy, i hope i dont need to wait for another 4 months now... wat do u guys think??
-電影男
shit. well at least we know she is still breathing. how did that date go with the girl?
Just send her some nice e-mail...
100GET and for fucks sake please stop putting the 男 crap after your name already
>>100
Seconded
Ive been waiting, too
r2_jane@yahoo.co.jp
I definitely understand how hard it is when you've begun devoloping feelings for a friend like J. But the thing is, it sounds to me you two are on the same wavelengths. I think I'm with the rest of the guys and tell you to take hold of her!
Sorry, I mistyped this message (104) and meant for another thread. My apologies!
By the way Benson, 4 months is a REALLY long time... I'm not quite sure what's going on here. I just hope it works out in the end.
>>106
Maybe she found this board
well i'm a tad confused at the moment cos the feeling i had with the japanese girl was lost for a while, i'm just afraid i'm gonna wait for another 4 months or something... i'll be surprised if she found this board, prob got freaked lol.
>>98 lol i said the girl didn't show up cos of family business or something.. didn't go well with her cos she doesn't talk much so i didn't bother. I sent a normal email to the jap girl yesterday so hopefully it wont take long for her to reply. btw how do you sage a post??
write "sage" in the link box. it adds your post to the thread without bumping the thread back to the top of the page.
ok cool!
I have no idea what's going on, but benson_2009, you're such a loser. Have phone sex with her already.
And when you meet her, go to a hotel and relieve your frustrations already. Read my other posts if u want advice.
sorry but i aint the kind of guy that just want sex, your in the wrong thread man
>>111
DISREGARD THAT, I SUCK COCKS