I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...
Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.
we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away ＿|￣|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??
First thing I can offer you is this:
"Love" when on a signature tends to mean NOTHING.
If you're knew to getting along with girls, I understand, you see that word and your heart jumps. I've misinterpreted this sign before, which is why I offer my advice as a caution.
You've only given us a overview of the information, so it's hard to say if you should confess or not.
Again, speaking from personal expereience, I once confessed to a girl that I knew primarily over the internet that I had feelings for her. At first she played along thinking I was flirting, but once she realized I was serious, she shot me down hard.
I really don't want to make you feel anymore nervous about this than you already do, but you did ask for advice so I'm offering what I can.
I'd gauge the situation best I can to find out if she has feelings for you if you don't want to set yourself up for a fall. You need more to go on than a "Love..." in an e-mail.
In conclusion though, as lame as it sounds, you really just need to listen to your gut on this. You need to ask yourself two things 1) Do you really love her? Or is this infatuation with someone that's offered you kindness? and 2) If you knew that she didn't love you back, would you still have feelings for her? If you can love her without need for reciprication, then by all means confess.
Sorry for the rambling reply, I hope that some of this will be of help to you.
Good luck!
Thank you so much for the advice..
i really think i am falling for her... even if i may get rejected i think i will still like her, the main reason why i like her so much is because out of all the girls i know, she didn't make fun of me because i was into movie making and other stuff. I just wish i was in the same country as her, i waited so long for a reply and dont know how long i can keep waiting＿|￣|○" but if told her everything how i feel... would that work?? also it was both for me and girl too talk to someone that long the first time... would that mean anything?
＿|￣|○" I feel so hopeless!! >"<
Dude...that little ＿|￣|○" man is cool. Hmm..
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BUT SERIOUSLY, A lot of people thought I was crazy too because I was into blond girls for a weak, then mean girls, then when I said I REALLY only liked girls like Hotaru and gave up on women because they were boring that people gave me a hard time too. I really, REALLY like Hotaru but not like goth goth girls who have piercings and play live action role play and lame stuff like that. ANYWAYS BACK TO YOUR PROBLEM
Dude you live in another country. Even from Australia it is expensive to go to Japan. Second this is just some girl you talked to on line. She might be a real bitch in real life. Liking movies and talking nice is one thing, but man, she could have been a REAL BITCH. And you would have hated it. Plus she may have just been using you for English practice and got bored with it. I'm sure it sucks and hurts, but it'll be ok, man. I'm sure there are plenty of other girls in Australia who like movies too. Hell, that could be your thing, ask them if they will be in your movies. Girls are vain and like attention like that.
PS. Is it true you can get Steyr AUGs in Australia? Do you have one? Chicks dig Steyr AUGs.
PPS I was serious. I hope it works out, try New Zealand if all else fails
PPS. Really, chicks dig Steyr AUGs. If you can get one in australia(A REAL Steyr AUG, not airsoft) then chicks WILL dig it.
GOOD LUCK
indeed... the "love from" might not mean anything...
hhmm i'm not sure but she doesn't sound like a "real bitch". i know the "love from" properly doesn't mean anything~"~ since alot of girls nower days use that ＿|￣|○"
btw whats Steyr AUGs?? i've never heard of it ~"~
still waiting for that reply............. ahh i dont think i can wait any longer!! >"<
becareful not to set yourself up for a major letdown.
hhmm should i be prepared to be show down?? if i get shot down i think i would be hit pretty hard ＿|￣|○" it seems that shes stuck in my head where ever i go.... maybe i should just give up~"~
so what was the last time you talked to her now?
also a steyer aug is a rifle australian sas use.
Yeah dude. I heard you can still get Steyr AUGs in Australia. Man they rule.
and another helpful hint. A Real bitch doesn't let her bitchness show until it is too late.
Besides...it's just a girl. There are plenty of fish in the sea. But seriously, a Steyr AUG will help you score.
why would a rifle help me score?? i dont really get it~~"
well I havn't met a REAL bitch in my life before... maybe just one i think.. but she really doesn't seem to be like it, i just cant imagine her like that ~"~
>>10 hmm the last time we talked was last year.. but everytime we talk now we always talk for 5-6 hours... she says she wants to try 7 hours next time we talk.
Eiga Otoko! i beleive you can do it!
althought i dont know why CHICKS DIG STEYR AUGs can help you score. anyway.. movie man (eiga otoko) if you really love her that much, i thin you should all by means confess to her. even if you do get rejected its not like its the end of the world and there are heaps of other girls waiting for ya! good luck for everything! hope next time you talk to her you have enough courage to tell her how you feel!
>>15
I disagree. What's with this confessing love bull crap. Unless the guy plans on going to Japan, paying all kinds of crazy money, and has a chance at actually entering the most holy of holies, then I say he takes up chasing skirt on his home turf. I mean, if he's still talking to the girl he could say "Hey man, I think you're cute. if you come to australia lemme hook up with you."
Otherwise he should seriously invest in buying a Steyr AUG. I KNOW you can buy them in Australia because I know a guy there and he has an AUG-Z with rails and scopes and shit. It's black too and hella cool. He gets all kinds of girls. Plus he has a Ford Falcon, fire engine red.
Benson, I don't know you but you are like the brother I never wanted. Do you really want to pine over some girl you'll never meet or do you want to score? Seriously, if all else fails go to New Zealand. I hear women over there are just crazy for Australianese.
What could it hurt?
btw everyone... although i live in australia but i'm actualy chinese ~"~ i dont know why >>17 would think >>15 is me >"< however after reading your posts... I decided to try and forget this girl. >>16 does have a point, am i really planning go to and spend that money just to see her?? i mean even if she does accept it what next?? we cant even see each other but only hear voices. unless she has a webcam but still you still cant do much. maybe i will just remain good friends with her....＿|￣|○" But Thanks everyone for listning to my story, appreciate it! prehaps i will met someone same as her in australia one day!
Yeah dude, that's probably the best way to go. And hey, I didn't know you were chinese, but you're still cool in my book. There are plenty of young lasses traipsing around Australia, some of them even blond.
And hey, use that money you were GOING to spend to go to Japan and get yourself that Steyr AUG!
hahaha i noticed people didn't know i was chinese lol but stil thanks very much for the advice! maybe i will go look for that SteyR AUG lol! xD
>>18
That's because the IDs in >>11-13,15,18,20 are all 42XejFb+
Next time you're doing JISAKU JIEN in the dark of night, be sure to sage your post.
ahh apparently i just asked this girl out cos shes going to return some stuff she borrowed from me and i plan to take her to see fireworks on night, any suggestions wat i should do?!
btw i think >>15 might be a friend cos my friend was on my computer and he properly read the whole post >"<
eehh can soemone please help!! the girl messaged me back and asked "where do you want to go? what are we gonna do?" any suggestions what i should say?!! >"<
If this is the Japanese girl that you are getting over you tell her to go blow dirt. You're treating yourself to a Steyr AUG and don't need her mucking it all up.
If this is a new girl, Take her to an Italian restaurant(CLASSY restaurant). And then take her for ice cream afterward.
Trust me.
yeah this is a new girl!~ oh i see thanks!! i see what i can do! ^^ hope it works!
Now Benson...don't screw this up. I forgot to mention in >>24 some things.
Ok first of all, dress up a little bit. Not like you are going to a funeral but some slacks and a collar shirt(MAYBE a tie...depends) Whatever, just try to look kempt and presentable.
When you get to the place, pull her seat for her. AVOID SMALL TALK. Just enjoy the moment. Comment on the food, the atmosphere. BE HONEST AND GENUINE. Do not bullshit this girl, benson. If there is a moment of silence. GO WITH IT. If she wants to say something, she'll say it. EYE CONTACT IS IMPORTANT. Smile too. Nothing too toothy or fake.
If you are of age, order some wine. GOOD WINE. Like I said this should be a Classy Italian restaurant. Normally I don't like Italians or Italian food, but it is a good date food. It's rich, filling, and there is variety. Also, BE NICE TO THE WAITER. I don't care if he's so fruity his last name is Grape. BE NICE TO HIM. Women pick up on that. It's like if you are all nice to her, but an ass to someone else she'll think you are fake.(Hopefully you're a nice enough chap anyways..but still)
Also, Order for her. That's right ORDER FOR HER. Here is the classy way to do it.
Ask her what she wants before the waiter comes. Then when it's time to order say "The lady here will have XXXXX" Smile while you do it. Then after dinner, take her for ice cream. GOOD ice cream. Trust me.
Whatever, man. I hope you use this as a guide. Don't talk to her like you are doing an interview. AVOID POLITICS. AVOID TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE YOU BOTH KNOW. AVOID SWEARING. DO GLANCE AT HER BOOBS AND THEN LOOK INTO HER EYES AND SMILE. COMPLIMENT HER ON HER SMELL BUT DON'T BE CREEPY. COMPLIMENT HER ON HER HAIR.
Also when you get done with the date. DO NOT EXPECT A KISS. Give her a hug. If she does kiss you it might be a peck on the cheek, but otherwise give her a hug. Don't touch her ass or anything.
Also, DO NOT SPEND MORE THAN 50 DOLLARS US ON HER. DON'T.
But otherwise, be yourself. Save talk of Steyr AUGs for the third or fourth date. Then(and you ARE getting one aren't you?) take her shooting. Tell her how cute she looks holding a Steyr AUG. Take pictures of her. Post them here.
YOU KNOW NOW WHAT YOU MUST DO, BENSON. DON'T SCREW IT UP!
wow! thanks alot! but i dont think shes intrested in a Steyr AUG lol! Thanks for all that ^^
>>26 is a recipe for her having an allergy attack because you ordered something she didn't know what it was and was deathly allergic to, resulting in her brother coming to kill you
you might want to get the Steyr AUG beforehand just in case
hmm apparently she suddenly offline when i was talking to her on msn today~"~ she cant go out on night so might go out during day though... properly just ask her out for lunch or a movie i think ＿|￣|○" what do you guys think?
Movies are lame for first dates. She can see a damn movie on her own time.
Lunch is good, take her somewhere outdoorsy. Like a patio cafe or something.
>>28
doesn't know what he's talking about. Make sure she wants what she wants and THEN order for her. That way if she dies it is her own damn fault.
oohh okk! thanks for that ^^
it seems she hasn't replied me... maybe she got dissapointed that i didn't know where to go ＿|￣|○" she was only planning to return something she borrowed from me so really wasn't that big, but thanks alot for all that! maybe i can use it in the future ^^
I still cant get the jap girl out of my head, and stil waiting....＿|￣|○"
Still no news from her?
does the jap girl know ur chinese XD
yeah she knows I'm chinese, I am so hopeless when it comes to girls ＿|￣|○"
Hey I was lurking around and cool I see you hey sup just came from the Densha Otoko thread eh? everyone ditched me there =P
wow sorry for double posting but I can't help but feel that this is like mini densha otoko remake XD
go you w00t XD but ya sigh I know how life can be a well you know...
(sorry for adding this in here where it doesn't belong but ya... hope you don't mind benson hehe ya internet love don' trust it, 9 out of 10 times it doesn't work out even if it does, the chance of seeing the person is slim as for the current one you are going for ya like what the other dude said don't spend too much or she might just start milking you, you can spend more later on but don't start heavily spending from start basically work your way up.)
lol just like Densha＿|￣|○
hahaha, good to see you here xD>>36 well when i talk to her, i only spend the night talking cos its the only time we can talk. theres so many densha alike in this thead, maybe this is what this thead does lol, stil waiting...＿|￣|○
Benson, you are doing it wrong. Stop fooling around and buy that Steyr AUG
Hmmm Gun Otaku trying to date online girl wee for guitar otoko remix XD
(btw what do you type to get the ">>38" in blue font thing
well.... I guess it depends on what you are looking for I used to online date someone before.
I met that person off RO(Ragnarok Online XD) it was pretty
good for a year, since at that time I was too busy to actually
go out and stuff. The online relationship allowed me to get
the comfort and company I needed without going to too much
trouble. But the thing was I found out she lived 9 blocks from
where I am (ya its a small world sometimes) anyhow we met at a
dance after and it turned out okish but then her dad stepped
in... but bah why am I ranting... back to you^^.
Basically I guess its what you are looking for in the end.
If you are looking for a long steady relationship with cuddles
and what not, then online is probably not the way to go.
Because its really hard to meet someone offline,
and Benson cheer up I'm chinese too^^ not all hope is lost XD
(got search Yellow Fever on youtube.com
www.youtube.com/watch?v=iIIoc8R26iM) It has a point in the end watch it.
=P
W T F?! Did...did you just call me an "otaku", boy?
I don't normally help chinese people(there are only two that I actually do like..and yes I have known more chinese than I care to)
I'm sitting here...trying to give good advice.
Getting a Steyr AUG is the BEST POSSIBLE ADVICE I can give this man. He's not getting laid because HE DOESN'T HAVE ONE.
You know what...I'll be damned if I help any of you again.....
gun otaku......the nerve.