I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...
Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.
we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away ＿|￣|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??
Benson! The 18th is coming up! I hope all goes well!
I just recently discovered 4-ch (through 4chan.org, oddly enough) and I finished reading this thread only moments ago. I am, however, drawn into your story. I've nothing to say that hasn't already been said, however I wish you the best of luck.
>>143
Please sage if you have nothing to say. Type "sage" in the link field when you post. It prevents the thread bumping back to the top of the page.
Thanks.
Benson, what happened? It's past the eighteenth. Any luck?
i'd like to know too !
haha i thought this thread died, well the 18th........ she never came on and i waited till 12 AM that night, was very disappointed but i emailed her saying if she has time i would like to talk to her again. but oh well, i really dont know what to do now cept wait again, however i been emailing with this girl latley but she... how to say... she looks like a kid!! shes nice, seem to get along really well but i think we're just good friends. lol to be honest i think i'm really bad when it comes to girls, i think the big problem is that i'm not ready and not serious enough to have a relationship at the moment, i just think theres something more i should do before going into those stuff, i'm not to sure. well with aya i just have to wait for her next reply, mayb in a monthi presume.... surprised this thread is still alive lol! thanks for the post and wish everyone the best!!
Benson, honestly it's not that hard for someone to reply to e-mails. The fact that it takes her a month to reply is not a good sign. Either she does not use the computer but once a month, or she is blowing you off like she did on the 18th every time you e-mail her. If it is the former, then she could not possibly know enough about internet subleties to form a viable feeling for you over the internet because it is not a big part of her life. If it is the second, then she obviously has no permanent feelings for you, and digs you up when she is lonely. Either way you're setting yourself up for a world of hurt. You cannot possibly woo her with chatting only once a month. I urge you not to spend your youthful years pining after the unatainable. You will find yourself an old man pining after his youth. Perhaps the best thing you could do now is buy that Steyr AUG that another secret admirer suggested earlier in this thread. In reality, it would have as much effect on your friendship/relationship with Aya as anything else you could do during the silent months. This may be better conveyed by a sports reference. The ball is in her court and she's not dribbling. I hope everything works out for you Benson, one way or another.
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thanks for that, i'm not actuali like OBSESED with her or anything, well it does make sense if she has no permant feelings for me but that doesn't really matter. i realized that waiting here will just make me worse so i moved on a while ago, its hard to think the reasons why she email me once a month when we use to email each other like every 2 days or so. i dont know her very well since we never met and only talked a few times last year. lol maybe i'll just save up for that Steyr AUG xD well keep you guys posted if anything comes up!
hey guys!
your not gonna beleive it! i got Aya's mobile no.!! shes in hawaii at the moment for vacation and gonna stay there for 3 weeks. i told her i might visit her end of year cos i mite be going to japan for a holiday, she wrote "please call me if you come to japan!!" lol this email didn't take long, only took 2 weeks hahahaha xD
>>150
yeah, must be the delays in getting the mail all the way from japan to australia.
>>151
fucking pony express are getting slower and slower.
hey guys!
just got an package from a girl over seas, shes a family friend of mine. sent all these stationy stuff she made, has my name all over it LOL. anyway i just recieved an email from Aya in Hawaii, she says she wants to send me a letter. my week just keeps getting better and better ^^
hey everyone
i just recieved a postcard from aya, lol the front cover says "thinking of you in hawaii". nothing much written on it cept that its hot there and asked how i was and how everything is going here. she describes how hawaii is such a nice place and that if i ever get a chance to go i should go. well pretty happy about the post card xD
Your the Man Benson_2009!!!!! This girl loves you! This is amazing! An otaku like myself, who want's to become a director, like myself, is actually loved by an asian girl.(though the fact I'm also asian) HAHA!
Aw, what a great story :)
Keep us updated, Benson.
I think something might even happen from this :D
>>156
Forgot to mention that it has been 5 months already!
Amazing :)
hahaha thanks guys!! looks like there really is something going on here!! well i hope lol! i'll be sure to keep you guys updated! :)
>>157 5 months?! really?! i didn't even notice... wow!
There will never come anything out of it. Get over her already and search for a better girl, one that doesn't play with you and that you can have an actual love relation with.
I know it sounds harsh, but that's the way it is.
>>161 thanks for the advice, it was very hard for me to make films especially last year when alot of people was agaisnt it, but now i'm saying exactly what you said "screw what people think!" i mean its my future not thiers and they can think whatever they want. lol i know the film industry is a difficult one but i'm gonna try my best to get in it from bottom to top!
>>159 hmm its not really harsh, more like the truth. alot of people have said that shes just playing with me but i dont know why something just doesn't feel like that. well i'm gonna see whats going to happen, it isn't the best choice to decide to get over things now.
benson you are breaking my balls here. you are so in love with this girl, but is she in love with you? i have been reading your story since the beginning and its been the same cycle: you talk to her, she disappears, you think about moving on, she comes back and you talk to her. get out of this pointless self destructive cycle. nothing is going to change. it is male nature to want a girl who rejects, it is just the way we are built. just get over it. many people here, including myself, have been saying to move on, she isnt worth it. i dont want to sound like a broken record, but she isnt worth it, move on. this isnt densha otoko, this isnt a book or a movie, this is real life, this is your life, dont waste it, please.
Okay, from what I've read, it sounds like you're the type of guy who jumps the gun alot.
Firstly, when a girl ends her letters in "luv aya", it does not imply anything serious. More likely, she feels acquainted with you and sees you as a friend. Please stop assuming that she is interested in you just because she sends you a couple of emails occasionally. I can tell you that if it takes her that long to reply to an email then obviously she has her own life. Her priority is not you. Ie: She is a smart girl who is simply looking for a friend in you.
Secondly, with no disrespect to anyone, I can hardly see how you can fall in love with some when there's a language barrier between you. I mean, from teh email that you posted here, it seems like the convos are really shallow, and essentially a bunch of light and polite conversation. No offence to her, but her english is too dodgy to draw any value from it. Perhaps the language barrier might've worked if you guys regularly conversed and met each other in real life, but as it stands I think you're decieving yourself if you're actually seeing sparks.
Thirdly, I really don't think you know anything about love. Or perhaps you are too young to. In the process of chasing "Aya", you also seem very open minded to other girls from overseas. I can tell you that relationships and feelings don't just start from an exchange of the occasional word on the internet. What's more, you constantly refer to "Aya" as "the jap girl". By labelling her like that shows me you don't really love her.
Lastly, you should just get on with life and meet girls that you can easily ACCESS. Maybe then you'll get a grasp to understand girls and I won't have to be reading cringing stories like this on the internet anymore. I can't believe noone has told you this. If you really are trying to imitate Densha Otako, this comes nothing close to it. At least in his situation the girl was within metres of him, not thousands of kilometres. Get back to reality.
I am Australian too. I talked to a girl on msn for almost a year and I thought I really loved her, but her suicidial tendencies and the fact that she was bisexual meant that I regretted ever wasting that much time telling her not to kill herself.
And, yeah, go with the Steyr AUG. Chicks dig them.
And no, Jap is not really that acceptable, even in Australia. The japanese make up a huge chunk of Australia. And I am fucking glad that that do.
>>166
STFU, I know for a FACT that love can remove a girl's suicidality.
Bis rule dude, I have a lot of bi friends and its awesome knowing girls as perved as you.
What the hell is the big deal about this Steyr AUG? It's just a freakin' gun, jeez. ¬_¬ If a guy needs a gun to be secure in his masculinity, then he's got bigger problems than finding women.
i dare you to say that when he has a steyr aug in your face.
>>167
what are you smoking? there's hardly any japanese in australia, relatively speaking. lots of chinese and vietnamese around, though.
>>167
you obviously don't live in australia, or you assume every black haired person is japanese. fail either way.
ok guys lay out the flaming lol
what i dont understand is that alot of people are urging me to get this Steyr AUG gun, is it really that attractive to get a gun?!!
yea its true, hardly any japanese here in australia, mostly chinese like from hong kong or taiwan like my self. about why i called aya "Jap girl" was becasue i didn't know what to call her and didn't thought of saying her real name, i had no idea it was offensive since people in australia here talk so slang most of the time...if i knew i would never had said it so thats why i call her by her real name.
to be honest i am very confused right now, its true i know nothing about love because i never been in love before. reason why i like aya so much was last year was like hell for me, like i said in my first post i was basicly bullied by these group of people. for about a whole year, all i knew was hatred and darkness, i almost gave up. intill the day i met aya, it was a feeling i havn't felt for ages, i was happy, like really happy especially when we talked on skype. for the first time a girl wanted to talk to me i was like "wooww" but thats prob nothing... so basicly, aya saved me from the hard times. i know its hard to beleive but i tried several times to move on but i'm just not attracted to other girls here...the only way i think i can move on is if i get rejected, like most of you guys said, she might be just playing or only think of me as a friend. i can never forget that feeling from last year, maybe thats why i cant move on. i didn't realize till now that this is the first time i'm in love with someone, I'm actuali a type of person who doesn't like to say "i love someone" for some reason, usualy i say "i like someone".
i cant seem to get along with girls here prob becasue they think i'm a kind of looser since i love watching anime, movies and playing games. girls here like those hardcore asian types who love to show off with thier cool hair style or whatever.
anyway just wanted to tell you guys why i'm in love with aya. most of you guys think its prob the most stupidist thing to fall for someone on the net who you never met before. >>164 is really right, i know nothing about love since this is really the first time. like i said in another post, i am pretty anti social even on msn nower days. to be honest this is the closest relation i have with a girl, never talk to a girl on a mic for 6 hours... never sent a gift to a girl before either and aya is the first girl i sent too.. maybe i live in the dreamworld too much, too much of a dreamer. like most people say "reality kills ya!"
>>173
lol Steyr AUG, it's just an inside joke here on /love/. Sorry to break the trolling of other Anonymous, but I don't wanna see you spend money because of a meme
>>173
They're just fucking with you about the gun. Don't take them seriously, and here in the US, everyone thinks you're Chinese, or if they have some sort of intelligence, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, and sometimes Filipino.
I know it's hard to move on. I jump from crush to crush, and the only way I move on is if I meet another girl. Then the vicious cycle repeats. You will meet someone else sooner or later, but remember to keep an open heart, or you could pass up a great opportunity.
>>173
I love someone I've never met, I believe in it 5000%
I hope she really loves you man, otaku gotta stick together
Benson....
Steyr AUG is not a meme....I own one and it grants me all kinds of awesome. Don't listen to the heathens, you are probably one of the few decent people on this bullshit forum.
Seriously, get one.
>>168
Worst advice ever given on this board ever. Never, NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER date a girl with more problems with you. Seriously, if this chick is fucked up she is just going to drag you into it and it'll be a big fucking waste of your time. Doesn't matter how "nice she is", doesn't matter how much you love her, drop it like a hot fucking potato.
Also:
Keep in mind that a lot of girls (particularly the crazy ones) pretend to be/say they are bisexual to either get attention or cope with some kind of emotional problem. If a girl says she's bisexual, ESPECIALLY if she's upfront about it (i.e., mentions it out of the blue as a means of gaining attention), get the fuck away from her, as far as romantic relationships go. Also, this has about a ninety-nine percent correlation rate: all bisexual girls, real or pretend, are batshit insane. This is a FACT.
tl;dr: Never date a girl with more problems than you.
DON'T DO IT.
THIS POST EMPHASIZES THE LAST POST.
DON'T DO IT.
Seriously just STAY AWAY.
>>178
As a bisexual girl, I resent your statement about bisexual girls being batshit insane. :-p
Though it is indeed true that if someone's using his/her sexuality (whatever it may be, hetero-, homo-, bi-, pan-, etc) as a way to attention whore, one needs to avoid getting into a relationship with the person.
Ok, huge chunk was an exaggeration, but I happen to know a lot of Japanese people. And yes, I can tell the difference between asians. There are enough Japanese in Australia. Especially where I live. I suppose the fact that most store signs near me are in both English and Japanese (And yes I can tell the difference between Japanese and Chinese, that isn't it) means that there are no Japanese people? But what exactly are you arguing, that it is therefore acceptable to call them Japs? There are plenty of Japanese people in Australia, there are more Chinese and other asian people, but there are still a lot of Japanese immigrants.
>>183 i think its just some australian slang to call japanese "Japs", i live in melbourne and havn't even seen one japanese person here, i know sydney as a few.
ahh looks like my first ever experience is with a long distance and i heard they dont long last.
>>178 you know i met a girl whos a family friend almost dragged me along with her problems. every single problem even a small one she would just come straight to me. i reckon what you say is true...not to be tite or anything but it was pretty annoying cos my phone kept beeping every 5 seconds and my inbox was full cos of this girl.. so scary
lol i'm not gonna buy a rifle, dont even have a gun license and to be honest i stil dont see how a rifle can get you anywhere. funny thing! lol
anway i dont know what to do, maybe just wait as usual for something to happen. prob wont get into relationships intill i graduate cos getting a pretty busy year next year so i should be working hard lol, but thanks for the great advice everyone! wish you all the best!
She's not, fucked up surroundings would give almost anyone low self esteem. She used to be, but isn't anymore.
BTW, she's not bi, I just know a few. ONE of them...yeah...compulsive liar, upfront, etc
Benson. Aya is out of your reach, but there are other girls like her who are more accessible to you, it wouldn't be fair to yourself to emotionally attach yourself to something you cannot get. Be friends, but I think you should keep your romantical life open to realistic oppertunities. You seem like a good person, and I think a relationship with a decent girl would do you well, so it's definately something you should work for.
Also, looking where you haven't looked before might be a good idea, for while finding someone who is a lot like yourself with interests and everything might seem like fun and good idea to begin with, having someone who can complement yourself and bring new strenghts into your life is actually better. The most important thing is that you love eachother and can hold passion for eachother, similar interests is only a must for this for people who put their minds under matter. If you don't do that you can appriciate people much more, and will be less inclined to tire of them.
In either case I wish you good luck with your lovelife and life at large.
Benson I hate to ay it but it sounds like Aya is very casual about you and is in no way serious about you at all. I really wish I could be one of the Densha style cheerleaders but in this case it’s just not in the cards.
I think your best/safest bet at this point is confession and see where that leads. In your next conversation on Skype or MSN just tell her you have something to say to her and say it. If she has mutual feelings she will let you know. If she has a Boyfriend she will tell you. If you have been Friend zoned then she will tell you that too. After that you can move on with your life one way or the other.
Benson I hate to ay it but it sounds like Aya is very casual about you and is in no way serious about you at all. I really wish I could be one of the Densha style cheerleaders but in this case it’s just not in the cards.
I think your best/safest bet at this point is confession and see where that leads. In your next conversation on Skype or MSN just tell her you have something to say to her and say it. If she has mutual feelings she will let you know. If she has a Boyfriend she will tell you. If you have been Friend zoned then she will tell you that too. After that you can move on with your life one way or the other.
>>183
Okay, I think there was a misinterpretation on both parts. The 'offensive' part of saying "the jap girl" is not so much the "jap" bit, but the fact that she was labelled. Like, use her name for respect? I absolutely have no qualms about using jap, cos it's not a racial slur in any way (if you think otherwise, please give some reason). Which is probably why I interpreted >>167's "jap" comment as japs aren't welcome in australia. As in, mixed relationships are not accepted or something. Thus you would understand my wtf attitude. For the record though, I don't know whereabouts you live, but overall the proportion of japanese people in australia is very small.
Anyhow, point is; if you really like someone, you would use their name for goodness sake.
>>189 i think your suggestion is best, if i do confess next time we talk i would 100% know if shes being serious or just playing around. i shutted my self from my social life for a while latley, only cos of work. its true thats shes out of my reach, i mean we live so far away so there really is not a slight chance. but what if, next time i do confess and it turns out that she liked me as well, what do i do next?? i mean will she be my first gf or are we still just friends??
its weird to say this but, its kinda lonley sometimes... when theres no one to talk to. even in my family, my parents travel often so not at home much and my older brother goes out frequently and we dont really talk much. my daily life is either on the computer, playing games, watching anime or movies and school work. i mean most girls who know me prob think i'm this big looser, i tried to change once but it just didn't work out cos i dont feel like my self, its like i'm hiding my real personality. to be honest i use to be on msn 24/7 talking to people but now i hardly go online or talk to people.
i could already tell that me and Aya prob wont really work since she keeps disappearing...i really wish we lived in the same area, if we did that might have worked.
>>187 she did bring new stregth into my life, if i didn't meet her last year i would have stopped filming, prob gave up since these group of people were picking on me. she actuali gave me courage to stand up agaisnt those people and to keep filming, like i said i never met anyone like her, and like i said in my previous post, i was really happy when i talked to her and last year all i saw was just darkness. you know its funny, i said that i didn't want a gf and here i am hoping to get one. i actuali been rejected 6 times already......thats why i'm stil single and in this thread lol. anyway i think Aya is going back to japan near the end of this month, possible that i could talk to her and finaly confess, see what her answer is.... if yes, i would be extremly happy and see if we could work something out. if no, i would move on knowing that i got rejected again and having the first time to confess on the phone (i use to do it on msn cos too nervous to say it, i guess thats why i got rejected lol). you guys think thats a better idea??
>>191
If you feel you really must, don't "confess," just tell her. You'll scare her away for sure with a confession, but if you're cool about it, I guess there's nothing wrong with it. However, I feel she's not serious about this and would've seen that red flag right away.
>she did bring new stregth into my life, if i didn't meet her last year i would have stopped filming, prob gave up since these group of people were picking on me. she actuali gave me courage to stand up agaisnt those people and to keep filming
Then her job is done. There are three kinds of people you'll meet in your life: those that are there for a lifetime, those that are there for a part of it, and those that are there only for a moment. The things we learn about ourselves through them lasts forever though.
>>190
The term Jap was used as a derogatory term for the Japanese during World War II. It's like calling a Chinese chink or a Korean gook. I doubt you are referring to Jewish American Princess since you're Australian and that's an American term.
>Jewish American Princess
I have never heard that before.
Benson, go ahead and confess, I doubt it would make a difference. You just gotta get out and enjoy life. Join a club, just go out and meet people.
Hey Benson, your local fellow man from Australia. I have nothing to add to this thread that had not been said already.
But on a curious note, how old are you and which suburb do you live in Melbourne?
Today is Friday, and I find myself sitting on my ass in front of my computer as usual and thinking of what to do. It's nothing special today but I'm responding to this thread anyway, usually I'm just a lurker and can't think anything to reply to most threads in this bbs.
Do you have friends and do you go out?
I didn't meant to sage this thread. That is a typo.
True, I was being all practical and shit but nevermind that, go get shot down, or conquer her heart! Love is worth a risk, blood, sweat and tears.
I'm just realizing that if something is to come out of this, it will take a lot of work. But what worthwhile doesn't ey?
>>192
Okay, you might be right. But it's still really absurd to think that "jap" would be an offensive term. I mean, at least with "chink" and "gook", there are negative connotations. Compared to them, "jap" is a really plausible shorthand. I dunno, perhaps it was offensive like 50yrs ago or so, but in today's society it's rather accepted and definitely isn't used in a derogatory sense. Much like how we use "phillo", "viet", "malay", "indo" and even "aussie".
>>194 um.. i dont go out much, only go out to watch a movie or something occasionaly with a friend. i go out more on holidays with 4-5 friends and we go to the movies or around the city.
lol my age, i'm 16 turning 17 in a month. hmm i live around doncaster, lol how old did you think i was??
Guess that I'm correct you are around that age. :)
Nah just curious.
Doncaster is not far lol. There are lot of Chinese living there, it is well off place, people got money there :)
But I prefer Box Hill, thats where I wonder around sometimes, in the arcades, but I don't live there though.
lol box hill is like hardcore asian areas, my school is near box hill, its like a 15 min tram to get there.
anyway i've been thinking for a while, theres this other girl i'm intrested which is a family friend of mine. we talk alot on msn but shes in taiwan. she sent me this package 3 weeks ago with these stickers thats got my name on it and stuff. i just bought her a bracelet with her name as a thank you gift which i'm sending it tomorow. we get along well and she helped me with some situation and i help her alot on her english lol, prehaps i should get over aya and focus on her?? i mean at least i get to see her once a year cos i go back during the holidays and we talk alot, unlike aya who just randomly disappear. so what you guys think?? oh btw her name is KIM (its not reallly her english name but apparently thats what her english teacher calls her lol)
btw forgot to mention
200GET
Just wondering, why do you keep trying to get girls from overseas?
Why not here?
well i have actualli, i got rejected 6 times here lol. hhmm i kinda lost intrest to girls here due to that and girls here aint intrested into people like me. i tried a few times to get along with girls here but just doesn;t work for some reason. anyway i'll be seeing KIM at the end of this year cos i'm going back to taiwan.
6 times?!?! holy fuck, 6 girls out of an australian population of 20 million said no.
hmm these people i use to hang around thought i was trying to act hardcore by asking every girl out, i use to play badminton with them. i was only asking out as a friend but i didn't understand that people here thought you were trying to hit on them when you ask them out cos in taiwan i think its normal if you ask them out as a friend, different things i guess. for some odd reason, everytime i like someone i seem to get further away from them like naturely. i guess i'm use to being by my self, my friend says i'm very dependant lol.
anyway i really decided to give up on aya, even if she replies me i'll just stay good friends with her. what do you guys think??
HARDCORE BADMINTON!!!!
no wait...
do it!
>>anyway i really decided to give up on aya, even if she replies me i'll just stay good friends with her. what do you guys think??
I think you're on to something there. Sitting there pining for this girl forever without relief will only eat you up inside.
Yes. give up on this. I've followed the story while it ran, and this is the only sensible thing left. The reasons to believe love might ensue from this were pretty shallow anyway.
Frigid onanoko can only support this decision. Friends is a boon already.
Just hope that it's not one of those "moving on" things that you keep on doing but coming back to it after she says something nice.....
hahaha i did realize that so i said i'll just stay good friends with her. me and some friends decided to ask these girls out next week, one of them is a family friend of mine so shouldn't be hard to ask, maybe this is starting fresh! ah i'm stil talking to kim latley lol
it seems my luck with girls is really bad, apparently no girls could go next week so the arrangements got cancelled... well i dont really mind but loosing a little confidence in this type of situation more now. lol i'm pretty screwed for my formal next year, prob wont go since i got no one to take and cost alot as well...i'm stil not giving up, gonna try again next time!
Take a friend, that's what I did. IMO, formals are a bigger deal to the parents than the kids though. Don't go crazy over it.
i was going to take a friend, even told the girls to bring friends. but they just couldn't go so we cancelled it, o well.
got so drunk tonight at my brothers birthday party, first time LOL!!
hooray beer!
lol i had 4 bottles and got so high!~
anyway i'm intrested in this girl who lives in the same place!
well the funny thing is this girl who i talked to a bit 3 months ago, started talking to me on the weekend saying how she sees me at my bus stop everyday. she goes to the same school as my family friend and she sometimes jokes about trrying to get me to go for my family friend. so i said "are you trying to get me to go for her?" so she says "nahh got my own problems" so i being nice said that if she has any problems, feel free to ask me. she says "nah its private" but my computer lagged for a sec so i didn't reply when she suddenly said "ok, but dont tell anyone like...(this list of names) promise!?" so i said yea and she tells me about this guy who stalks her and gets too jealous easily. the guy sounds so weird, he cried infront of her and hugged her so tight while saying "I love you".
i also talk to this other girl, we just talked about anime all night lol!! and apparently she looks cute i heard xD i think this is a good fresh start to get over aya! btw i tried to call her last nite and this random girl picks up saying "moshi moshi?!" she couldn't speak english at all, so funny xD
>>216
dude. long distance call gone to waste. not funny.
lol, as long as you're having fun I guess.
lol i know its expensive, my house has this dial where it cost onl 7 cents a minute!
anyway i'm thinking of trying to get close to this girl i was talking to last nite. shes really into anime LOL!~ she also goes to the badminton place, i was thinking maybe i should go so i could meet her face to face. i'm gonna try another arrangement to ask the girls out, like i'll ask some friends to come with me and tell them to bring friends as well, what you guys think??
LDRs rarely work out, but if you absolutely must meet, then by all means do so. Besides, you have no idea if you'll even like each other when you meet.
why bring friends along? that will only make her think that you want to be friends. just ask the girl out for ice cream or something along those lines.
so u mean i should just ask her out like just me and her?!
just talk to the girl on the phone, god her voice sounds so cute!~ we're meeting next friday at the badminton place, yes that badminton place LOL!! i was pretty nervous when i was talking to her, she giggled alot when i went a little speechless....oh btw her name is LYSS. her voice is stuck in my head! bah so cute XD! btw last time i went to that badminton place, i was so nervous i didn't talk at all and made my self look like a complete idiot, so this time i'm gonna take some courage and talk to the girls there, i think i will be so nervous that i'll stop breathing ~~" so gonna embarras my self there, i cant play badminton anymore, cant even hit the damn shutle now... any advice??
yeah, hit the shuttle, not the cock.
ps. you sound like a cute guy....except ur 17 rite? dontcha have some important exams to do in like a month or so? i know i do..
>>223
A voice is a voice. Don't set yourself up for a huge fall, hope it works out.
hey ask her to teach you how to play. it would make a good date.
This sounds like a good idea.
Also don't worry about embarassing yourself, worry about not doing things in fear of embarassment. If you cut yourself down because you're scared, you will just seem boring and unattractive.
>> i'm pretty screwed for my formal next year, prob wont go since i got no one to take and cost alot as well
That's not a bad thing. Just stay home and play Pokemon or watch anime or something like I did. At the end of the night, you'll actually have something to show for yourself, unlike the people who went to that formal. Basically, they just wasted a ton of money and time to sit around talking without anything to show for their time. Lame.
Yeah, stay at home by yourself with only Pikachu as your friend. Go ahead and watch anime that you could see on any night of the year. Yes sir, nothing is more rewarding than avoiding people and hiding because you are too scared to ask a girl out to the formal or too afraid of just going stag with a bunch of friends and not enjoying yourself. Be lazy, don't get a job so you can pay for the expenses. Man, I regret going to my formal (prom). If I didn't plan on going, I wouldn't have asked this girl to go with me and she wouldn't be my current girlfriend. Yup, watchin anime that I could watch on any night would have been 20x better than spending all night with a cute girl and all of my friends. >>229 you are right, I have nothing to show, just a few pictures, memories and a girlfriend.
benson have hope and have a lot more patience, you will win my friend.
>>Go ahead and watch anime that you could see on any night of the year.
The exact same thing can be said about going to a formal/prom. You sit around doing nothing or talking with people. How is that different from sitting around with friends any other night of the year? Oh, wait... You have to <i>pay</i> for the privelege of attending. No fucking thanks.
>>230
lol fag
i give up
I went to the formal by myself. Only because I felt I had to. But I don't see anything wrong with staying home and watching anime. I barely remember the formal and I have no photos of it. I doubt it will be a memory that I will hold onto til the day I die. But I can remember every plot line of every anime I have ever watched. Now that is something I will hold onto til the day I die.
>>231
haha that is funny seeing as you never went to a formal -_-.
this isn't a matter of money. i know alot of stingy people who went to my formal. why? because memories are priceless. if you actually socialised you would know the difference between "sitting around with friends" and attending an event that would potentially be one of the most memorable time of your life. take it from the words of someone who actually went to their formal. live life with no regrets and don't do something that will be a cause for embarassment when you grow up and look back on life.
If a formal is one of the most memorable events in your life I wouldn't want to live that life. I weep for you
>>225 lol well not at the moment, exams are around November so i stil have time now xD
well yesterday i was talking to Lyss again on msn, and i cannot beleive how nice she is. well 2 months ago, i had to walk home for 1 hour and 30 mins in the rain cos the person who picks me up forgot about it, my parents were overseas and my older brother was stil at uni. around my area they dont have much walkpaths cos its near the bushy mountain area. so i told her about this and shes shocked, like really surprised and said "what if you got....pneumonia or something like that ><"""""""", *slightly paranoid" and then said "you wont do that again right?!" so i said no and she said "thats good! :)" then later on.. this convo happened
Lyss: just curious...you made up your nickname right? its not form a song right?
Benson: yeah i made it up
Lyss: I've been meaning to ask if you were ok.. coz "kurayami"(darkness) is kinda depressing...
Benson: oh that name is like from ages ago, just forgot to change it (btw the name said "the world of darkness has come back to me") i think the name was around..... april or something
Lyss:ohh! are you ok now? you are right?!
Benson: yeaa i'm great! xD its all good now, thanks anyway^^
Lyss: ttthatts good =]]!
oh btw her msn was on busy and it said she was doing hww....is this going somewhere?!!
also.. i was thinking... if i win or get to know lyss ver well i mite ask her to the formal next year.. btw >>234 its so bad to go to the formal by your self since you have to pay while you got no one else to take and people will laugh at you for not having a girl to take there, thats why a few people are thinking of not going next year. i dont see whats wrong watching anime on that night if you got no one to take there... but i reckon it will be a good memory if you could go. some poeple think other people who dont go to formal are loosers, i dont know why they think that...jsut cos we dont have to pay so much money to go into some place with a girl and talk.... well anyway it stil a long time till my formal so i got ALL the time to think about it xD
>>236
Eh? Why not? Lemme guess, you hated your life at highschool or something? It's not the formal itself. It's what it represents. The friends, atmosphere, final year, growing up, celebration.
Save the tears for yourself man.
A lot of people lose their virginity at their formals at least in America.
Yeah, it's considered a mating ritual here. It's prostitution on a grandiose scale.
>>some poeple think other people who dont go to formal are loosers, i dont know why they think that...jsut cos we dont have to pay so much money to go into some place with a girl and talk
Formals are a big deal because people make them a big deal. Nothing has meaning unless meaning is attached to it. Women love it because everyone has to get all dressed up. Guys like it cause a lot of them think they'll get laid afterwards (and many do, but the number is greatly exaggerrated). Parents love it because they get to pretend their kids are adults for one night. Formals are very much an evolved rite of passage out of adolescence into early adulthood from some ancient ceremony our ancestors held. Like other human behavior, anyone that doesn't follow the status quo is different and therefore must be labeled and persecuted.
My formal was nothing special, and I had a date, but then again, we both fell into the "social outcast" archetype. She was against formals, yet she had a dress, so she was pressured by some of her friends to go with me, not exactly how I'd like to get a date, but whatever. I would've went stag, but well...I didn't have any friends.
you can't fight tradition